What is na­tu­ral, any­way?

Re­cent­ly, Dol­ce&Gab­ba­na las­hed out against gay pa­ren­ting, si­ding them­sel­ves with a long li­ne of gays, les­bi­ans and he­te­ros. Their ar­gu­ments are al­ways the sa­me. Chief edi­tor Chris­ti­na Rein­thal coun­ters

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> So­me­time in mid-March, Dol­ce&Gab­ba­na ga­ve an interview in which Do­me­ni­co Dol­ce sta­ted that he finds LGBT pa­ren­ting un­natu­ral and so­mehow not right. The world was in an upro­ar, and right­ly so: It’s gra­ting to ha­ve to he­ar this kind of nag­ging, not on­ly from cra­zy he­te­ros but even “from our own ranks“. Asi­de from that, I’d ex­pect mo­re crea­ti­vi­ty from a coup­le of fa­shion de­si­gners, per­haps a new ap­proach on the to­pic – but they on­ly re­pea­ted what’s be­en said be­fo­re count­less ti­mes: Li­fe has a na­tu­ral cour­se; the­re are things that can­not be chan­ged; fa­mi­ly is one of them. The most po­pu­lar ar­gu­ment, laun­ched in a no­se-crin­k­led de­mea­nor against LGBT fa­mi­lies. All I can say as a les­bi­an mo­ther is this: Not­hing in my li­fe has felt so na­tu­ral and self-evi­dent as the de­ci­si­on my wi­fe and I ma­de to ha­ve a child. That goes for the con­cep­ti­on and birth as well. This, by the way, is just as na­tu­ral a pro­cess as a he­te­ro­se­xu­al wo­man choo­sing not to ha­ve child­ren and to use pro­tec­tion when ha­ving sex with a man. But that li­ne of thought, which ti­me and again forces LGBT par­ents in­to ha­ving to ju­s­ti­fy their choices, con­ti­nues far bey­ond what D&G dis­hed out in this ca­se. Other op­po­n­ents li­ke to as­su­me that gays and les­bi­ans ha­ve child­ren out of pu­re sel­fish­ness. An­yo­ne who’s had to spend two or th­ree hours alo­ne with a todd­ler will know that child-rea­ring is the ex­act op­po­si­te of sel­fish­ness. You ha­ve to gi­ve up pret­ty much ever­y­thing: your own sleep sche­du­le, ea­ting ha­b­its, lei­su­re ti­me and abo­ve all: in­de­pen­dence. This brings us to ar­gu­ment num­ber th­ree: “If you ha­ve a child, your li­fe is over!“True. But it doe­sn’t mat­ter. Num­ber four: “This is ad­ap­t­ing to he­te­ro­nor­ma­ti­vi­ty.“Ac­tual­ly, sin­ce my pregnan­cy I’ve had mo­re co­m­ing-out si­tua­ti­ons than in the 35 ye­ars pri­or. A child­less les­bi­an, ob­vious­ly, doe­sn’t ha­ve to ex­plain her­s­elf as of­ten as a les­bi­an en­du­ring gyne­co­lo­gi­cal check-ups, child­birth clas­ses, the de­li­very room and beau­ra­cra­cy. Ne­ver be­fo­re ha­ve I felt so much li­ke a les­bi­an, and thus a de­via­ti­on from the he­te­ro norm, so vi­si­bi­ly as I ha­ve in the last fi­ve ye­ars. Oh, and then the­re’s the ar­gu­ment that ha­ving kids is sim­ply squa­re, which is ac­tual­ly my fa­vo­ri­te. To that I say the fol­lo­wing: I’ve ex­pe­ri­en­ced af­ter­noon cof­fee in child­less hou­se­holds whe­re I felt way mo­re squa­re than being sur­roun­ded by ba­by farts, coo­kie crumbs, diarr­hea and vo­mit. If Dol­ce&Gab­ba­na de­sign a chic dirt-repellent blou­se, may­be I’d even buy one. < Trans­la­ti­on: Jo­ey Han­som

“The op­po­si­te of ego­ism“If you ha­ve chil­den, you ha­ve to gi­ve up pret­ty much ever­y­thing

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