Narrow escape from a serial abuser
was grinding he teeth and he skin was like jumping and his eyes was just wild, wild.
“And the first time he hit me I was sitting in a chair and this man just come up to me and kicked me and started going off and talking things that made no sense. I get up and he pushed me back in the chair and every word that come of he mouth was a kick coming with it. I told him like he was sick in he head and this man hit me in my head. I had a migraine for days. I said that was it but he come and beg and like a fool I decide to give he another chance.
“You know he confided in me so much that maybe he was scared of me that I would let it out, but I would not. I just want to forget about what he told me and move on with my life and let he move on with he life.
“And when he was going through serious financial crises, I used to brace he. I have me businesses and I am a livestock farmer so I used to help he out, but you know people told me he is a cursed individual and I believe it is true.
“And to show how this man head is not good, the next day after the last beating, he call me and tell me girl you ain’t dead yet? You strong, man. With all dem blows I give you I thought you woulda dead. And that is not all, he saying girl come back me ain’t satisfied how I beat you and I just had to cut off the phone.
“For days I didn’t tell anybody but after I said I had to tell because I was in so much pain. He came about two times and after I was not talking to he, he stop coming. And you know like I said I blocked him and I don’t have to see him anymore.
“I am not scared like before. I am growing it out. I am praying and asking God to take away that fear. I was fearful first because he even say he would bomb down my house but I am not scared anymore.
“Of course if I could turn back the hands of time, I wished he had never existed for me. It is the first time I experienced an abusive relationship. I am a very independent woman, I work hard for everything I have…
“But you know I am single for a while and I was looking for a companion. Before, I had a relationship and we almost got married but I saw the red flags and I call it quits only to end up with this man.
“Right now I don’t want anybody. I am just going with my friends and go to church and spend more time with my kids and do my business. I don’t want nobody right now, I am good,” she added.
She had some words of advice for her fellow sisters: “If he hit you one time, don’t be like me, leave, don’t wait for a second chance. Leave. Don’t wait, because they wouldn’t change. They come nice for first and then they just don’t change. Just leave.”
I wish this sister well as she moves on and I hope that maybe one day she would find that companion she wanted. For now, sister, just live and love those who love you.