“WHAT IF I DON’T KNOW WHAT I WANT?”

If you’re still fairly new to sex or haven’t yet had a relationship that let you explore your needs, you’ve got a whole world to uncover. Finding out what you want in bed is like discovering what foods you like from hundreds of new tastes. One day you’ll want to try something exotic; the next you’ll want to stick to what you know. Your palate will grow with experience. Meanwhile, speaking up about the things we don’t want is just as important, if not more so, because it includes saying no.