Make Your Partner a Real Partner
Success Secret #2
I truly believe that the single most important career decision a woman makes is whether she will have a life partner and who that partner is. A woman who can find someone who is willing to share the burdens—and joys—of home life will go further in her work life. In the past 30 years, women have made more progress in the workforce than in the home. When a husband and wife both work full-time, the mother does 40% more childcare and about 30% more housework than the father. So while men are taking on more household responsibilities, this increase is happening very slowly.
This has to change. Just as we need to encourage women to lean in to their careers, we need to encourage men to ‘lean in’ to their families. If we expect and allow them to do more, they will do more.
When husbands do more housework, wives are less depressed, marital conflicts decrease and satisfaction rises. In fact, the risk of divorce reduces by about half when a wife earns half the income and the husband does half the housework. For men, participating in child
When a husband and wife both work full-time, the mother does 40% more childcare and about 30% more housework than the father.
rearing fosters the development of patience, empathy and adaptability, characteristics that benefit them in all relationships. For women, earning money increases their decisionmaking ability in the home, protects them in case of divorce, and can be important security in later years, as women often outlive their husbands. Also, couples who share domestic responsibilities have more sex. The best way for a man to make a pass at