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From random little issues to major life dramas, we’ve got your back.
Q.I have a computer-nerd BF; we’ve been together for a year and a half. But he’s the lazy, indoors type and I love the outdoors and sports, which he hates. Now I’ve met another guy who’s sporty and outdoorsy. I know I love my boyfriend, but have doubts whenever I see the other guy.
A: Before you go for the sportsman, give the nerd a chance to do better. Set up a hillside holiday, or camping or hiking, somewhere far from a Wi-Fi connection. Let him see for himself how beautiful the great outdoors can be. If he refuses to play along, tell him in no uncertain terms about your unhappiness in the relationship. And if he still sits tight, then think about breaking up—but not for the other guy; for yourself!
Q: I’m going on my first holiday with my boyfriend and I’m so anxious! We’ve been together for almost six months and love spending time together, but I’m really worried about him seeing me all the time—without make-up, and even my body on the beach. He’s seen me naked, but I feel I can control that. Now we’ll be together for seven whole days and I’m anxious that, once he sees the ‘real’ me, he’ll be turned off. A:
Remember what makes your relationship work: attraction is part of it, but you suggested spending time together is what you really value—it’s most likely the same for him. Attraction isn’t just about physical appearance, but also confidence and personality. So the best thing you can do is have fun: enjoy yourself and each other. When you wake up next to him, think about how this is an exciting new dimension to your relationship, not that your eyes lack definition without mascara. So choose to focus on what you love about yourself and your boyfriend—and have an amazing time!
Q: After five years together (we met when we were 16) my man proposed last year, and we couldn’t have been happier. But then a week ago, he left me. He said he doesn’t want to be with me right now but he does want to spend his life with me in the future. How can I move on? A:
You began your relationship at a very young age. Your future is very long! He’s not suggesting the end of your relationship; only a trial separation. Time apart gives a new perspective on what each of you hopes to achieve as an individual, not only as a couple. Yes, it could happen that one or both of you decides your committed relationship was undertaken too soon and must end for good. In which case, it’s better to know now than later.
Q: I want to wear something fab for a big lunch party coming up this month, and I’ve seen A-listers wear sequins during the day. How can I wear some without looking over-the-top? A:
One of the easiest ways to work sequins for day is to team them with casual basics and low-key accessories, like an embellished crop top with a highwaist maxi skirt, or a pair of shiny pants with a slogan tee and leather jacket. Also, try teaming layers of sheer or light fabrics with your main sequin piece.
These ladies wear daytime shine so well! Clockwise, L-R: Blake Lively, Alexa Chung, Solange Knowles, Maria Sharapova