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Q.I have a com­puter-nerd BF; we’ve been to­gether for a year and a half. But he’s the lazy, in­doors type and I love the out­doors and sports, which he hates. Now I’ve met an­other guy who’s sporty and out­doorsy. I know I love my boyfriend, but have doubts when­ever I see the other guy.

A: Be­fore you go for the sports­man, give the nerd a chance to do bet­ter. Set up a hill­side hol­i­day, or camp­ing or hik­ing, some­where far from a Wi-Fi con­nec­tion. Let him see for him­self how beau­ti­ful the great out­doors can be. If he re­fuses to play along, tell him in no un­cer­tain terms about your un­hap­pi­ness in the re­la­tion­ship. And if he still sits tight, then think about break­ing up—but not for the other guy; for yourself!

Q: I’m go­ing on my first hol­i­day with my boyfriend and I’m so anx­ious! We’ve been to­gether for al­most six months and love spend­ing time to­gether, but I’m re­ally wor­ried about him see­ing me all the time—with­out make-up, and even my body on the beach. He’s seen me naked, but I feel I can con­trol that. Now we’ll be to­gether for seven whole days and I’m anx­ious that, once he sees the ‘real’ me, he’ll be turned off. A:

Re­mem­ber what makes your re­la­tion­ship work: at­trac­tion is part of it, but you sug­gested spend­ing time to­gether is what you re­ally value—it’s most likely the same for him. At­trac­tion isn’t just about phys­i­cal ap­pear­ance, but also con­fi­dence and per­son­al­ity. So the best thing you can do is have fun: en­joy yourself and each other. When you wake up next to him, think about how this is an ex­cit­ing new di­men­sion to your re­la­tion­ship, not that your eyes lack def­i­ni­tion with­out mas­cara. So choose to fo­cus on what you love about yourself and your boyfriend—and have an amaz­ing time!

Q: Af­ter five years to­gether (we met when we were 16) my man pro­posed last year, and we couldn’t have been hap­pier. But then a week ago, he left me. He said he doesn’t want to be with me right now but he does want to spend his life with me in the fu­ture. How can I move on? A:

You be­gan your re­la­tion­ship at a very young age. Your fu­ture is very long! He’s not sug­gest­ing the end of your re­la­tion­ship; only a trial sep­a­ra­tion. Time apart gives a new per­spec­tive on what each of you hopes to achieve as an in­di­vid­ual, not only as a cou­ple. Yes, it could hap­pen that one or both of you de­cides your com­mit­ted re­la­tion­ship was un­der­taken too soon and must end for good. In which case, it’s bet­ter to know now than later.

Q: I want to wear some­thing fab for a big lunch party com­ing up this month, and I’ve seen A-lis­ters wear se­quins dur­ing the day. How can I wear some with­out look­ing over-the-top? A:

One of the eas­i­est ways to work se­quins for day is to team them with ca­sual ba­sics and low-key ac­ces­sories, like an em­bel­lished crop top with a high­waist maxi skirt, or a pair of shiny pants with a slo­gan tee and leather jacket. Also, try team­ing lay­ers of sheer or light fabrics with your main se­quin piece.

These ladies wear day­time shine so well! Clock­wise, L-R: Blake Lively, Alexa Chung, Solange Knowles, Maria Shara­pova

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