I have a relationship problem that keeps repeating itself. Whenever I’m attracted to someone, they always treat me badly, and whenever someone is attracted to me, I don’t find them attractive. Even if I give them a go, it never works. What can I do?
A problem repeats itself when its source is inside, and carried along by, the troubled person. Something within you makes you believe you’re not worthy of love, driving you to choose guys who reinforce that problem, and to reject anyone who might help heal you. Please, put relationships aside for now. Focus on yourself. To identify the cause of your damaged self-esteem—and to cure it— professional counselling could be useful. Meanwhile, restore a dream or an ambition you’ve neglected—or choose a new one. Set free the confident and achieving woman inside you. Then you will be able to attract—and be attracted to—the sensitive partner you deserve.
Q: I’m recently married. My parents live several hours away but my in-laws are practically next door. When my parents visit, often just for a night, my in-laws invite us all out for dinner. How can I make them understand that time with my parents is precious? A:
Beware! The ice under a brand-new daughter-in-law can be very thin for some