Don’t value yourself through other people’s valuation
the smallest of raindrops and also tiny miserable weeds. I see you stung by those poisonous flies, causing you itchiness; and your pride refuses even to be irritated with them. Blood is what they want from you in all their meaningless and unconscious vengeance… Their bloodless souls crave blood, and so they sting you at every opportunity and make you suffer from small wounds and even before you heal, those same worms will crawl all over you to sting you again and again but you should be too proud to even hate those miserable creatures. They will call you a devil; they will whine and curse before you. Their curses don’t matter, as they are just whiners and nothing more. They think a lot about you with their petty souls because there’s nothing in them for them to think about themselves... you will always seem problematic to them. The truth of life is that everything that one thinks about a lot does become problematic in life.”
Taking off from the above lines of Nietzsche and from my own experiences, the basic point that I want to make here is that each one of us came alone into this world and we have to fend for ourselves alone. But the design of human psyche and social programming is such that throughout our lives we are made to both value and devalue ourselves only through other people’s valuation. I understood this truth very early on and I decided to live and die by my own values and not to care about the valuations of the negativics.