'Nobody is knocking my door down'

'The trick is to ride the downs and not get carried away by the highs. Just get on with life.'

The gorgeous Zeenat Aman turned 70 on November 19.

The actress looked back at her life and career, as well as the 'men who illtreated her'

"I've forgiven them completely. I see no point in holding grudges," she says.

So many years have passed since you ruled and yet, new actresses continue to be compared with you. What can I say? It makes me feel iconic.

I feel very special when I'm told girls look up to me. Why aren't you seen on screen more often?

Honestly, I'm not offered anything substantial.

The past years of my life have been devoted to my two sons.

I have been so immersed in the task of being a single parent that I haven't really given anything else a serious thought.

Raising my sons has been my priority. But now that they're growing up, I'm open to appropriate roles.

But nobody is knocking my door down (laughs) From Hai Hai Yeh Majboori to Mera Gore Gaalon Ka to Chura Liya, you continue to be associated with the most wonderful songs from the 1970s...

I was so fortunate to have those songs that are alive even today.

Even today, they're being played as

remixes or whatever.

I guess it was about being in the right place at the right time.

When I did those songs or anything else in my career, I had no idea they'd be important later. I just went by instinct.

Do you think we need to be more reverent about the past?

Oh nonsense! I've two of the most irreverent youngsters in my house. They poke fun at everything.

I enjoy irreverence.

One can't take oneself seriously. Just enjoy the moment.

Today, I'm so happy to have the gift of life.

I see so many of my colleagues in the entertainment industry not being around any longer. It's so sad. You've gone through very trying times...

Yes yes. I've gone through all of that. They've made me stronger.

There's no fixed pattern or formula to life.

No one is going to guarantee only happiness.

There'll be downs.

The trick is to ride the downs and not get carried away by the highs. Just get on with life. Do you think stardom comes easier to today's newcomers?

Not at all. Yes, some of them find it easier to get an entry. But everyone has to work hard.

It You wasn't were easy right for at me. the top when you opted for marriage and motherhood. Is that what all actresses should do?

I can't speak for other actresses, but yes, I desperately wanted to be a mother.

I had no siblings. I was the only child. After 15 years in the movie business, I was ready to have my own family. And to have a family, you need to be married.

Not necessarily.

Oh, to me, marriage was imperative for motherhood.

In a society, I could never impose my own morality on my children.

I think it's very wrong to be an unwed mother.

You give your child the stigma of illegitimacy. So would you have gone without marriage if you didn't want to be a mother?

Definitely! I got married in October and the next October, I had my son with me.

I've loved being a mom though it hasn't been easy for me being the nurturer and the bread provider.

Are you a friend to your sons?

I've told my sons, this is their home and they're free to bring their friends here.

I don't want them doing anything on street corners.

They've their parties, dinners, and gupshup at home. I'm there for them, though I give them their space.

How does your average day go? Quite simply, like a whirlwind. Among my sons, staff, plants, chores and my gym, my day just swishes by. And a big thank you to the gym. No! Every passing year the mirror reminds me I'm getting on.

The mirror lies.

You make me feel wonderful. Have I earned such goodwill?

When young people ask me if I planned my life and career, how do I tell them it just happened? Have you forgiven the men who have been nasty to you? (laughs) I don't dwell on the past.

I'm so full of 'now', so happy for the gift of each day.

When I walk into the house, the dogs bathe me in such a warm welcome. That's all I need. Don't dodge the question. Have you forgiven the men who ill-treated you? (After a pause) Yes, I've forgiven them completely.

I see no point in holding grudges.

I'd rather not have any negativity within me.

It's all gone, washed away.

With every passing year, it's only the here and the now that seems important.