Bring Brilliance Back Into The Bedroom
Here are some sure fire ways to sexolutionize your relationship and get things back on track. Consider pre-play If you’ve gone into wham-bamthank-you-ma’am mode or bedroom-only sex, and you’re grumpy about a zillion things during the day, foreplay can be scuppered. Instead make being loving part of your psyche. Indulge in affectionate touching, using pet names, generally being nice to one another without making sex the goal. It’s easier to have mindblowing sex when you are in a happy space together. Think out of the box Try novel naughty things to made sex feel different. For example, keep your clothes on, which makes your passion, so overpowering that you can’t wait to get undressed. Role play, act out a porn film, reach out raunchily while you’re watching a movie together. Newness stimulates the production of feel good chemicals in the brain. Make it easy-peasy Keep a locked pleasure chest at your bedside bursting with lube tubes, frequent massage oil, silk scarves a feather duster, face masks, flavoured condoms, aromatic candles, erotic novels. Ask for it Don’t play mind reader. Your partner may not want the same things that were turn-ons once upon a time. Stop telepathic tactics and share present day fantasies. Lights off Get down and dirty in the dark, where you can whisper what you want to do and done to. What’s more, you don’t have to worry about budding pot bellies and love handles, which can squelch adventurousness. Change position Couples settle into the tried ‘n’ tested after just a few year together. Get out of the rut. There are a gaggle of do-able positions that don’t involve acrobatics. Say she likes the girl-on-top position. Switch easily to reverse cowgirl – she sits on top of you, but facing your feet for a gentle ride. Any position that’s become stale, can be tweaked to make it feel new. “Decade”nt sex Different decades mean different phases of sex life. Concentrate on building confidence in your Twenties. In your Thirties you often face decisions like having children or switching careers – use change as a springboard to shake up your sex life. Plan a long lustful weekend were you pretend that you both are strangers hooking up for the first time. Be honest in your Forties, and stop faking it. Work out techniques that will hit her G Spot. In your Fifties (and ever after) throw caution to the wind. No more worry about pregnancy or children bursting on you. Whee, you’re free.