Better bonding tips in the bedroom
The bedroom is a sacred space for a relationship, but it’s about more than just a good mattress, tranquil wall colour and comfortable sheets. You need also to keep consistent bedtime habits with your partner for your relationship to flourish and marriage to sustain. Here are some bedtime rules and rituals that happy couples swear by:
THEY GO TO BED AT THE SAME TIME
Going to bed together is a great opportunity for couples to connect and talk about their days’ events. Many couples don’t see each other all day long and have a habit of going to bed at different times. According to research, happy couples brush their teeth together and go to bed at the same time. It helps them maintain the warmth and intimacy of their relationship. If one of you goes to sleep much earlier than the other, try to still make some time around whenever the earlier person goes to bed – even if you need to get up after they’ve gone to sleep.
THEY HAVE A HEARTTO-HEART
Dedicate some time - an hour or even a few minutes - before going to sleep to generally have a light-hearted chat. Express positive feelings towards your partner; don’t weigh each other down with problems about office/ family members/ finances. Pillow talk connects couples emotionally, helps you forget about problems, and makes you feel relaxed. This will help end the day on a positive note and make you feel better. It also has a positive influence on your overall mood.
THEY DON’T FIGHT
Try not to get involved in heated arguments before going to sleep. Fighting in bed never helps solve a problem. On top of that, it’s harder for both of you to fall asleep, and you’ll also feel depressed the next day.
THEY POWER DOWN PHONES AND TURN OFF THE TV
It’s better for your health,
and for your relationship. Without digital distractions, you’re leaving more of an opportunity to start meaningful conversations or, well, whatever else two adults might do in bed together. Social media dependency suppresses the release of oxytocin in your body. This hormone is responsible for emotional intimacy and bonding. Put away the phone/ laptop when your partner needs your undivided attention, especially in the bedroom. Don’t be intimate, holding your phone, more than you hold your partner.
THEY FORGET ABOUT WORK
Try to forget about work, and stop checking your work email when you are in bed. It’s so much better to spend that time together and to have some rest so you can be productive at work the next day.
THEY DON’T SHARE A PET
Bedtime is an intimate hour. Be vigilant about your pets but make sure your pets have another comfortable place to sleep besides your bed.
THEY CUDDLE & KISS
Physical touch is so important to a good relationship, and cuddling in bed is like a shortcut to intimacy. According to research, partners who sleep less than an inch apart are more likely to be happy in their relationship.