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What kind of lover are you? Find out…

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Dis­cover your love style

Ex­perts say there are six dif­fer­ent ways you can be “in love.” And your love style may change over the course of your re­la­tion­ship. Know­ing your style can help you eval­u­ate your re­la­tion­ship. It’ll help you have more re­al­is­tic ex­pec­ta­tions about how love hap­pens for you and how it evolves. If you un­der­stand that it’s nor­mal for a lov­ing cou­ple to have a pla­tonic re­la­tion­ship, for in­stance, you’ll know not to worry if there aren’t re­works. So what kind of lover are you? Check out these de­scrip­tions to nd your personal style, and learn how you can keep your re­la­tion­ship healthy and happy.

THE RO­MAN­TIC

You love be­ing in love. You may be swept away by your new lovers looks or other ap­peal­ing phys­i­cal at­tributes and dis­ap­pointed when they change over time. Keep it healthy: Re­mem­ber that true love doesn’t re­cede with the hair­line, and ro­mance doesn’t have to fade as the re­la­tion­ship ma­tures. Plan dates, week­end get­aways, or just-the-two-of-you va­ca­tions to rekin­dle the spark that ig­nited your re­la­tion­ship.

THE LIST-MAKER

You have cri­te­ria that are im­por­tant, and you won’t change them. Even if you’re in a com­mit­ted re­la­tion­ship, you may put too much pressure on your part­ner to live up to your stan­dards. Keep it healthy: Let go of the list. Cling­ing to those must-haves could mean a chafed re­la­tion­ship or a lonely life. Ul­ti­mately, the im­por­tant things are companionship, love, and a ca­pac­ity for for­give­ness, not the stuff that may impress out­siders.

THE OB­SES­SIVE

You want to spend all your time with your part­ner. And you con­stantly worry about your re­la­tion­ship, even when you’ve been to­gether for years. This kind of part­ner can be over­bear­ing or have highs and lows that drive the sig­nif­i­cant other crazy.

Keep it healthy: Don’t crowd your lover. Re­al­ize that too much of a good thing can be too much. You may need to talk to a coun­sel­lor who can help you un­der­stand why you feel so in­se­cure and help you find ways to put your re­la­tion­ship in per­spec­tive.

THE GIVER

You may give more than you get. At some point, you nd that it’s all go­ing one way. You’re con­stantly work­ing selessly to meet your part­ner’s needs, but you’re not look­ing af­ter yourself.

Keep it healthy: It’s im­por­tant to have a life out­side of your mar­riage. De­velop your own in­ter­ests, cul­ti­vate your own friend­ships, and re­serve time to do things you like to do – without your part­ner.

THE PLAYER

You love courtship. For these lovers, the chase is never over. You’re eas­ily bored in long-term relationships though, and you may have a rov­ing eye.

Keep it healthy: First, avoid sit­u­a­tions that could lead to af­fairs. Don’t have a drink with that in­ter­est­ing col­league. Take temp­ta­tion out of your life. In­stead of look­ing for ex­cite­ment out­side your re­la­tion­ship, try doing new things (salsa danc­ing) with your part­ner, so you can see him in a fresh light.

THE PAL

You’re best friends, but there’s lit­tle ac­tion be­tween the two of you. In the long term, your re­la­tion­ship may be quiet, but it’s strong. Keep it healthy: Don’t let your thing get too pla­tonic. You need mo­ments of ro­mance. Plan­ning a spe­cial dinner for two or just plant­ing a pas­sion­ate kiss on him once in a while shows your part­ner (and re­minds you, too) that you think he’s sexy and ex­cit­ing.

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