Actor, RJ and producer Teejay Sidhu’s parenting mantras
How has motherhood changed you as a person?
Motherhood has brought out the child in me! Every day I am playing games, singing songs, doing little dances, and reviewing numbers and ABCs. Children live completely in the moment. If they’re happy, they laugh. If they’re upset, they cry. If they need you, they’ll let you know they need attention from you. I love that honesty about them. I’ve learned to live more in the moment, and not stress too much about silly little things.
How do you balance your professional life along with being a mom of twins?
I’m fortunate to be working in the entertainment industry versus a nine-five corporate kind of job. My hours and shoot dates are not stressful, and whenever I’m shooting, whether it’s for TV, digital or for an ad, I take my children along with me. They play with each other, they explore their new surroundings, and when they feel like sleeping, they go to my vanity van, where there’s a bed ready for them. I had a nice vanity van while shooting for Firstpost’s ‘9 Months’ where my children could sleep when they needed to. My twins are such pleasant little girls, and they adapt very quickly to new surroundings. I’m glad because it’s made it so easy for me to go back to work.
What has ‘9 Months’ taught you as a mother?
Being a host for ‘9 Months Season 3’ has given me the opportunity to speak with many specialists – pediatricians, nutritionists, psychologists etc. I received a lot of insight into raising children, and also asked many questions that I, as a mother of toddlers, had. I also got a chance to speak one-on-one to other parents in the entertainment industry. It was interesting to see how they balanced their careers with work,
and how they handled problems that came up.
How does your husband Karanvir Bohra help you with taking care of the children? Karanvir is the most amazing father, and has never made me feel that raising children is only a mother’s job. He changes diapers, feeds babies, cooks for them, entertains them, takes them to the park - everything that I do, he does. He is the most handson dad I have ever seen. He was there for every scan, every doctor’s appointment, and told me right from the beginning that he wanted to be a part of the entire journey with me. The babies are so close to him. I love that Karanvir is building these strong emotional bonds with our children. I feel these solid foundations from early on help shape children into kind, loving adults who are able to choose healthy relationships in their lives later on.
What are your thoughts on dividing parenting responsibilities? I think it’s not fair for mothers to be the sole care-givers. Both parents should be involved in raising a child and that means handling responsibilities equally. I think the problems arise when women take too much on themselves and don’t speak up when they need help. Maybe men don’t know that their help is even required. So it’s nice to be honest with your husband, and let him know how he can make your life a little easier.
Any advice for new moms of twins? Try not to do everything yourselves and to take little breaks whenever you can. You don’t need to be a superwoman. Ask your inlaws and extended family for help from time to time so you can recharge too. Don’t let the responsibility of handling two babies make you unhappy because, believe me, there will be days where you feel like it’s just too much to handle! Children are very sensitive to our vibrations - if we’re happy, they’re happy. If we’re stressed out, they will feel agitated. Stay as positive as you can. Also meditate and breathe deeply when you can. It helps more than you know!
Karanvir is the most amazing father, and has never made me feel that raising children is only a mother’s job.