God doesn’t in­ter­fere at all in our lives, says new book

Hindustan Times (Gurugram) - City - - MY CITY - Henna Rakheja henna.rakheja@htlive.com

“Naag de­vta, mera Physics bacha lena… roz ek litre doodh bhi­jwaaoonga…”

Who doesn’t re­mem­ber this di­a­logue from Aamir Khan-star­rer 3 Id­iots that has a mis­er­able engi­neer­ing stu­dent mak­ing en­treaties to god to help him get through an exam? Well, run­ning to the all-pow­er­ful to bail us out of our trou­bles is what we all do. From pray­ing, promis­ing of­fer­ings and even break­ing up — hu­mans prac­tice al­most every­thing with God. But af­ter we run out of all tac­tics to ap­pease the almighty, that’s when re­sent­ment seeps in.

“What­ever hap­pens, we ei­ther blame God for it, or pray to Him. But the truth is that God doesn’t in­ter­fere at all in our lives. What­ever hap­pens is be­cause of our own ac­tions,” says man­age­ment con­sul­tant-turned-au­thor Ra­jiv Grover.

The 44-year-old’s de­but book God Won’t Help: Af­fir­ma­tions of the Reluc­tant God, elu­ci­dates the same idea. “Three years back, I lost my mother to can­cer. In fact, when my mother was bat­tling the disease, my fa­ther suf­fered a par­a­lytic at­tack, and I had to quit my job be­cause it was im­pos­si­ble to go to work while mak­ing rounds of the hos­pi­tal,” says the Delhi-based con­sul­tant.

Grover, how­ever, de­cided to pen his life ex­pe­ri­ences af­ter he suc­cess­fully helped one of his friends over­come the loss of his 14-year-old daugh­ter. “If I could help one in­di­vid­ual, I could help oth­ers fac­ing sim­i­lar sit­u­a­tions, too. My gen­er­a­tion, at least, had a sup­port sys­tem in the form of sib­lings, but to­day’s gen­er­a­tion doesn’t even have that,” he adds.

Grover’s book hand­holds the reader make the shift from the idea that ‘God won’t help’ to ‘God will help’, by fol­low­ing ‘demi-the­ism’ — a term that guides the au­thor to not hold God re­spon­si­ble for their hap­pi­ness. “When we face prob­lems in life, we be­come so de­pen­dent on ad­dic­tions such as al­co­hol that we for­get to give a chance to the fight­ing spirit in­side us. And the sui­ci­dal bouts are very con­ta­gious… That’s why I thought of writ­ing a book, even though I never thought I will write one. I’m no au­thor, but I want to help peo­ple come out of their de­pres­sion by shar­ing my knowl­edge with them,” he says.

The book’s nar­ra­tive, which has a dis­il­lu­sioned en­gi­neer, Shiv meet­ing a for­mer US army of­fi­cer, Candy­man, and a Pash­tun, Nasir, re­minds the reader of the di­a­logue be­tween Kr­ishna and Ar­juna in the Gita. How much does he bor­row from the holy text?

“I have been an avid reader, and have read the Gita, Upan­ishads, Osho, teach­ing of Bud­dha, and many other texts. But, it’s life that has taught me so much more. If I had to just gather from the Gita, then I would have writ­ten a book at 30,” says Grover.

What­ever hap­pens, we ei­ther blame God for it, or pray to Him... But the truth is that what­ever hap­pens is be­cause of our own ac­tions.


The cover of Ra­jiv Grover’s book, God Won’t Help: Af­fir­ma­tions of a Reluc­tant God

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