They resisted child marriage and pursued academics
LUCKNOW :Uttar Pradesh has seen a positive trend in the recent past – girls have stood up for their rights and firmly said ‘no’ to child marriage. They have pursued academics, after seeing the ill-effects of early marriage within their family and have also spread awareness against child marriage. On International Women’s Day, we highlight a few such rural girls.
KANAKLATA MISHRA, 25
Kanaklata from Itwariya village in Shravasti has completed LLB from Gonda and is now practising in Shravasti (Bhinda). Her journey has not been easy. In her village, girls are usually married off at the age of 12 or 13. Kanak’s sister, Pinky, got married at 13. After her sister’s marriage, her family started pressurising her to get married.
“I explained to my mother that I wanted to study. She said that I could continue studying even after marriage. I was very disturbed. I approached my sister and brother-in-law. They tried convincing my parents and that is how I got an opportunity to pursue my education,” says Kanaklata.After completing her college, Kanaklata started teaching in a private school and started going to ‘tehsil’ 2 court. She had applied for registration from the Bar Council of India. She is also working with an NGO. “I want to tell everyone that they should let their daughters study and follow their dreams,” she said.
EKTA TIWARI, 15
One day, when Ekta, a Class 9 girl in Ranijot village of Balrampur returned home from school, she overheard her father telling her mother that they should not send their daughter to school. They said it was not safe for her to go to school alone.
“My father Lal Bahadur Tewari also wanted me to get married. This left me disheartened. Girls must speak up for themselves. I and spoke to my mother Kishori Devi. She understood, but it was a challenge to
convince my father,” said Ekta.
Ekta asked her brother, Jata Shankar Tewari, for help but he too got angry. “Then I explained to my father how early marriage could ruin my life. Eventually he was convinced. Currently, I am studying in Class 9. I would like to take up a job in the future so that I can extend financial support to my parents.”
GEETA RANA, 23
Geeta of Motipur Kala village in Shravasti was barely 18 when her father, Kanshiram started talking about her marriage. She spoke to her mother, Ramavati, a homemaker and opposed the marriage.
“But my father was firm. He believed that in our Tharu caste, if girls are not married at a young age, it’s difficult to find a suitable match for them later,” she said.
Her father also said that he was unable to support her education financially. “I decided not to give in to my father’s wish. I approached the village pradhan and sought help. He then came to my house to talk to my parents,” said Geeta.
“The village pradhan said if I am educated, my parents would be able to find a better match for me. He was even ready to finance my education. After a lot of persuasion, my father agreed,” she added. “Now, I am 23 years old and in the third year of my graduation. I am married and my mother-in-law, Kiran Kumari, is an anganwadi worker. With the support of my husband, Chandan Kumar, and my mother-inlaw, I am working as an Internet Saathi.”
SADHNA, 22
Sadhna’s elder sister was married at an early age and her parents were also thinking about Sadhna’s marriage.
“We are six sisters. My father, Vishwanath would say, ‘If you don’t get married, how will your younger sisters be married?’ I explained to him that he should allow me to study and if he wanted, he could marry off my younger sisters before me, but only after they complete their education,” said Sadhna, a resident of Khairakala village Shravasti. After a lot of persuasion, my father agreed. I completed my BA and then my BBA. In 2016, I started working with ‘Save the Children’ to create awareness amongst the community about the ill-effects of child marriage.”