Watch out for the quiet stressors in a relationship
Any relationship requires a lot of efforts to sustain. After the initial few days of crackling chemistry, it becomes more of a journey that two people undertake together. Stressful situations become a part and parcel of the journey too. It is in these times, that the skill of navigating troubled waters with patience and understanding, comes handy.
Addressing the presence of invisible stressors in a relationship, family and marriage therapist Elizabeth Earnshaw wrote, “Have the quiet stressors in your life make a little more noise. There will always be something to remember, learn more about, and remind other people to do. However, when we don’t take on this mental work fairly, resentment builds. ”
These can be the quiet stressors in a relationship: Remembering: It may be exhausting to remember smallest of activities in daily life and we often end up forgetting them. Researching: From paying the taxes to navigating stressful situations, researching and learning can take up a lot of our time and mind space. Worrying: Stressing over having a good time later, can take a toll on the relationship. Delegating: Dividing the work equally and fairly between people involved can be a healthy approach to deal with stress.