“One needn’t suit someone’s inferiority complex!”

To the Editor, HT Brunch:

In the Brunch edition dated April 25, I read Sunita Sharma’s question to fashion stylist Ami Patel with interest. But it didn’t make me happy.

The girl from Mumbai said she was 6’1” and had a complex about her height. “My dates seem overwhelmedby how tall I am,” she said. “How do I make sure I don’t tower over them?”

Ami, instead of admonishing her fears, you advised Sunita to avoid skinny jeans and wear midi skirts to cut height. But never once did you tell her to own her body.

Sunita, here are my two cents: you don’t need to “cut down” your size to suit someone’s inferiority complex! You will just end up attracting a person who will expect you to do that all the time. Instead, embrace your wonderful height, stand as tall as you are meant to be. If you want to wear heels, wear them! If you want a high ponytail, swish it! Be what you are, and don’t compromise on the things you like. Sooner or later, you’ll find someone who loves you just the way you are.

“She’s over six feet tall and carries every inch with pride. Instead of trying to shrink when faced with insecure men in the office, she shows up in bloodred shoes with heels as sharp as army knives and the height of Cuban cigars. She’s a comic-book artist’s fantasy — no one dominates a room the way she does. Or a party.”

— Bear Town, Fredrik Bachman

I had read this once upon a time, sending it for you.

Lots of love, Malini Badoni Malini Badoni is a Delhi-based homemaker, who took offence to HT Brunch publishing advice on how a tall girl can appear less intimidating, in the issue dated April 25, 2021.

“[IF YOU COVER UP THE WAY YOU LOOK], YOU WILL ATTRACT A PERSON WHO WILL EXPECT YOU TO DO THAT ALL THE TIME!“—MALINI BADONI, HT BRUNCH READER