SURROGACY VS ADOPTION

Not all is in the genes

“Surrogacy is fantastic for when you want a child with your own flesh and blood and you can’t have your own children,” says Mandira. “But all adopted children come with a gorgeous enigmatic of a world that is meeting yours. It’s a most remarkable trip to share. You flow into each other’s worlds. Once the bond between a mother and a child forms, the genetic bit is only of the slightest significance.”

told that we were very high on the list and if we chose to adopt using the ‘from anywhere in India’ option, which had been in the fine print, instead of the three states we had randomly chosen just because that was a question, our name would move up much faster. Tara’s photograph was in our email inbox within 10 days. She looked like a naughty, cute, little imp and we said, that’s our Tara!”

MOTHER’S LOVE

The first time Mandira took Tara to Bougainvillea, their second home, where there is a swimming pool, she was unstoppable, splashing around on her own. But when Mandira posted pictures on Instagram, Tara was attacked by trolls.

“This was unforgivable,” says Mandira. “It was inhuman and uncalled for! It takes a really low level kind of individual to do something like that.”

For Mandira, Raj and Vir, Tara has completed the family. “When I cuddle with her, I can’t believe she’s in our lives and she’s mine,” says Mandira. “My Tara has the love of a family. She will receive the education and care that will allow her to fulfil her potential wherever her dreams take her. As a parent, I have only unconditional love to offer.”

This is what makes Mandira a tiger in defence of her children and she has a message for Tara’s trolls.

“Insulting people doesn’t make you brave, bold, cool or courageous,” Mandira says disdainfully. “In fact, you are the weakest of cowards, craving attention and spewing poison safely hidden behind the shield of anonymity.”

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