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Online dating may seem dodgy, but reports suggest that people who meet online are happier in their relationsh­ips. Experts talk about the pros and cons of online dating.

Experts tell us why online dating can lead to longer and happier relationsh­ips, as well as its drawbacks

- Collin Rodrigues collin.rodrigues@hindustant­imes.com

The holiday season and the year 2016 is behind us. According to reports, the beginning of the New Year sees a jump in the number of people looking for love online. In fact, a report said that a study conducted by the University of Chicago, USA, had concluded that people who found their matches online were more satisfied with their relationsh­ips than those who met their partners offline. The report also said that people who met their partners online were less likely to break-up than those who had met offline.

HIGH SUCCESS RATE

So, could this be the reason why more and more people are frequentin­g online dating sites or apps to look for love? We wouldn’t know for sure but a report even quoted representa­tives of several dating websites who said they are expecting a rise in traffic from people looking for love in the New Year.

“Online dating introduces people to potential partners who they wouldn’t have encountere­d otherwise. You can talk to many people in a short span of time before finally finding your right match. Once you have zeroed in on to your option, it takes weeks or months of chatting before your relationsh­ip matures and goes to the next level. So, you have enough time to understand a person and decide whether he or she is right for you. This is probably why people who meet online are happier than those who meet offline,” says Riddhish K Maru, psychiatri­st, sexologist and counsellor in Mulund (W) and Thane (W). “On dating sites, one may get a rough idea of a person’s personal, social and economic background. Some studies have shown that people who date online are more mature, well-educated and earn well too. These factors may also contribute to a relationsh­ip’s success.”

LASTS LONGER

According to the study, ‘online relationsh­ips last longer.’ So, what could be the possible reasons behind it? Clinical psychologi­st Tanushree Bhargava says, “Online relationsh­ips take time to mature. Here, the first impression usually is the profile. You develop the bond without even meeting the person. However, in an offline relationsh­ip, the first impression is either the physical appearance or the way the person talks to you. When a person meets someone online, he or she gets more time to think about the reasons they are getting attracted to each other. These people can judge better if they are in love or just infatuated with the person they are interactin­g with. This might be difficult when you are always with a person in an offline relationsh­ip. Also, when you look for a partner online, you get an opportunit­y to meet like-minded people from diverse cultures, society, etc.”

RISK INVOLVED

However, online relationsh­ips have their drawbacks as well. Being fake is one of them. Maru says, “There’s also a risk of being cheated online. At times, the prospect you see online may look different in person. So, one needs to be careful about who you interact with. Know an individual thoroughly before meeting him or her.”

When you look for a partner online, you get an opportunit­y to meet like-minded people from diverse cultures. TANUSHREE BHARGAVA, CLINICAL PSYCHOLOGI­ST

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