‘Dishonesty is fine in a relationship’

Hello Cyrus, I’m in love with one of my classmates. However, he already has a girlfriend and they have been dating for a very long time now. At the same time, he has told me that he likes me too. But I don’t want to be in a relationship with him, as they are a great pair. I am confused. Please help. RA RA, firstly, you are wrong. You are not confused. You like him. You are very clear. He’s confused. He’s the one with the girlfriend, and he’s showing interest in you. In many medieval cultures, (which can be found anywhere in the world today), he’d be punished severely. Face painting, hard boil egg swallowing, and standing like a statue in the hot sun for hours come readily to mind. So, since I’m not confused either, let me suggest a way forward. He knows how you feel, give him a time frame, (I don’t like the word deadline, too much double meaning), and suggest him he has that much time to clean up his confusion. Please don’t encourage him to have his cake and eat it too, and then expect you to pay the bill.

I loved a girl and proposed to her last year and she told me that she was committed. Then after a month, she told me she was lying because one of our mutual friends liked her and she didn’t want to hurt him. After six months, she asked me again if I had feelings for her. I said, yes. However, a month later, she told me that she has been committed for the past three years. Did she ever love me? PR PR, who is this strange girl? Is she a politician, if so which party? I’m so impressed with her. Dishonesty to another level. She’s treating you like a human yo-yo. By the way, the prototype Yo-Yo was a human yo-yo. In 765 AD, Cheng Fa had one man tied to two sets of strings and then had the same man rocked to and fro. The man died. Not from the Yo-Yo effect, but from sheer boredom. I can’t force you, of course, but I do humbly suggest you don’t pursue this girl. She seems to not really care about anyone, but herself. Dishonesty is fine in a relationship, but dishonesty is like power. Too much dishonesty corrupts you. You’ll never really know where you stand with her. So can we please take a rain check, even though it’s the month of December?

My ex-boyfriend and I broke up two years ago and that ended our five-year-long relationship. Recently, he had visited my town and we texted and spoke to each other over the phone. But whenever I asked him to meet me, he always refused, saying that he is afraid that he will fall for me again. I want to meet him and solve things between us. What do I do? SB

SB, the Greek Genius Pythagoras came up with several principles — 437 to be precise. 404 turned out to be total rubbish. 33 became standard definitions in modern science. One of his theories was, ‘if an exboyfriend visits your town, meeting him again could be hazardous. Of course, it sounded much funnier in the original Greek. SB, your gentleman friend is in all probability right. It’s not a definite, but why play with fire? You had your time. Five good years like any serving government. You love him, so it makes sense for you to meet. But if he really doesn’t then why force him? Let him voluntarily pursue this, or it’ll lead to resentment from his side. This really now is his move. “Your move”, by the way, is also one of Pythagoras’ principles.

I’ve been dating a girl for a year now and for the past few months, I’ve noticed that she is flirting with my best friend, which makes me insecure. She calls him ‘husband’, ‘baby’, etc. I have told her about this but she doesn’t seem to understand. It got so out of hand, that I told her I wanted a breakup. At this point, all my friends told me that I was wrong. Now, we are back together, but I don’t know what to do. UC UC, I think she’s behaving like a total idiot. I mean, you don’t want her overly flirting and making you feel humiliated. Yet she persists, isn’t that the definition, of ‘Complete Idiot’. Also, meanspirited moron. I think you did the right thing. She shouldn’t rub your face in it. That’s not fair at all. A little banter is great, but come on this crosses a line. The line, by the way, is when you get upset and feel a sense of humiliation. Tell your friends to find their own instruments of humiliation and not to bother about yours. If she respects you, she’d stop going overboard. Without respect and consideration, there is love only among plants and vegetation.