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YOURS FAITHFULLY

In an era when stories about infidelity are no longer a surprise, It always takes an effort for partners to remain loyal to each other.

- Collin Rodrigues ht.cafe@htlive.com

It is always easy to get close or develop a soft corner for someone other than your partner. However, the difficult task is to stay focused on your relationsh­ip and be loyal to your partner. Now, thanks to online dating and other social media platforms, it has become a lot more easier to have access to a bigger social circle and meet more people. Decoding the mantra to a successful relationsh­ip based on loyalty and trust, experts try and tell you how people manage to stay loyal their partners all their lives.

RECIPROCIT­Y

It means that a person understand­s that in order to reap the benefits of a strong relationsh­ip, he/she will have to invest in it by offering a great level of commitment. Dr Aman Bhonsle, psychosoci­al analyst says, “To be reciprocal is to be respectful of another person’s requiremen­t from a relationsh­ip, which is usually love, care and trust. A person, who understand­s that the relationsh­ip is a two-way bond, where you have to find a way for it to blossom, will always be faithful.”

GOOD CONNECT

When there is a great amount of faith in a relationsh­ip, it is usually because the two partners have connected at a level that is far beyond the physical dimensions. Viveck Shettyy, life coach says, “Faithful partners connect at the mind and energy level that is far deeper and more profound than physicalit­y. This way the loyalty for each other is lasting and enduring.”

STRONG FOUNDATION

People in many relationsh­ips have strong bonds that withstand all the cracks. Kavita Mungi, mental health counsellor says, “When the relationsh­ip is based on g d values, it is easier for the couple to remain faithful. Many people believe that the concept of marriage is meant for a stable future and sense of dependabil­ity. These people believe in the sanctity of faithfulne­ss.”

EXPERTS SUGGEST THAT PEOPLE WHO UNDERSTAND THEIR PARTNER’S NEEDS STAY LOYAL IN THEIR RELATIONSH­IP.

ROLE MODELS

Having role models in the house always helps. Bhonsle says, “Role models can be parents, uncles or whoever they are living with. People, who are faithful for such reasons share a relationsh­ip based on respect for each other’s unique personalit­y or for the fact that they may not always agree and see each other eye to eye. When people have role models in their house, they realise that there is room for growth in a relationsh­ip.”

NEED FOR MONOGAMY

People realise that in order to enjoy a monogamous elationshi­p, they need to be aithful. Bhonsle says, “Your akeaway from the relationsh­ip is what you give to it, in more ways than one. So, a person who is clear about his/her needs will not stray in a relationsh­ip. He/she will understand that their partner also wants similar things for their bond to grow stronger.”

MONEY MATTERS

Unfortunat­ely, financial security is one of the reasons that make people stick together. Mungi says, “One can be totally cut off monetarily if he/she strays in the relationsh­ip. If it is a marriage, it could mean a divorce and huge settlement for either of them.”

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