‘Love and timing don’t always synchronise’

seriously

cyrus A few weeks back a guy proposed to me. I rejected his proposal. But when he told me about his ex-girlfriend, I felt pity, and accepted his proposal. We started chatting on social networking sites. We would exchange love messages. We met after a few days. The next day there was no message from him. When I asked, he said he was watching a match. Last week, I kept my data

connection off just to see whether he cared for me. When I logged in after a week, I found a message from him which said he didn’t want to be in the relationship anymore. I thought I was wrong somewhere and I asked for forgiveness. But he refused to change his stand. He said he would block me on social media if I try to contact him. I love him a lot. What should I do?

Yashu

Yashu. You are making me cry. How do I explain the situation to you? Actually, no point asking you, if you knew in the first place, you wouldn’t have to write in? Let’s look at the life of the Chinese Rock Lin Yan Pin... As a young man Pin wanted to perm his hair. His mom flatly said no to his request. She died a few years later. Now, Pin was free to get the perm, but sadly, his three broken marriages had cost him all his hair. So he could only do his eyebrows. Like Pin, you have missed the boat. When he was interested you weren’t. Unfortunately, now he absolutely isn’t... he has made it very clear. Please leave him alone. Love and timing don’t always synchronise. Look at the bright side — you still have your hair unlike Poor Pin.

Last year, I became good friends with a guy, and started loving him. Earlier, I had proposed to his friend, when my feelings for him were not as strong. He is stuck in my head. But he loves his best friend. They are not dating at the moment, but the situation can change. I need him. Help!

Veena

Your situation is like the beginning of an IPL match. Any team can win. You and your competition are very much in the match. Before she gets ahead of you, you need to make your move. But before being blatant, pass some hints and get more feedback ... judge his relations, feel his vibe, then strike like a viper on its prey. Move quickly, the opposition is at your heels.

I met a girl in December in Shimla through a common friend. Her simplicity blew me away. We are mirror images of each other. I have dated many girls but no one like her. While on an outing in Delhi, we got sloshed and kissed each other. We both were just out of bad relationships, so getting directly into a relationship wasn’t on our mind. Later, she told me that I was 10 on 10 on what she was looking for, but she did not feel the way she felt with her ex. Since then, we chat very little. I am going to move to Delhi for internship for three years, which means there is a hope to be in a relationship with her. I am in a dilemma. Please help. TL

Mirror images really? So, er... same cheekbones same moustaches? (just kidding, women’s moustaches are always different) Okay, so she gives you 10/10 but feels that it’s not quite as good as the intensity with her ex. Before you guys get sloshed again, I think you need to do what Chengiz Khan’s descendant Hualga Khan did. In order to bury his past, he hired a whole city in Central Asia. Let’s only draw inspiration from the first part of the statement. The past has to be buried. I say court her slowly, don’t drag your past lovers into the conversation. Both of you should enjoy your ‘now’ and the future will take care of itself. Now, about the mirror images... same height? Weight? Forehead span? Adam’s apple. ...er chest?

I fell in love with a family friend from Chennai. She is a gem of a person. She doesn’t like the fact that I drink. She is the kind of person who fakes her emotions and pretends to be happy. Despite her flaws, I love her. She said she is against relationships, when, in fact, she was dating a guy for eight years. Apart from that famous line, ‘move on dude’, tell me a way to get out of this.

Vampy

Dudolan (that’s Tamil for Dude), let me get this straight. She’s a gem of a person but she fakes her emotions. She’s a gem of a person but looks down on your habits. Er ... she’s a gem of a person but she lied to you, and was dating a guy for 8 years. But er she’s er a gem of a person? Just read your letter, Dudolan, she’s judgemental, a fraud and an elaborate liar. Granted these are important virtues if your marrying into Boko Haram, I still say it’s your call. You still like her after knowing all this, then go ahead, Dude! Sorry, go ahead, Dudolan!