‘If your love is genuine, allow it to lead you’

AG, firstly your name sounds like an expression than a name. AG! Now coming to the problem, tell me are you sure you love him? I base this on the superlative evidence that caught my eye in your mail. You said you love him for the last one month only. But you also said you were going around for the last three to four months, by using an aluminium calculator lying on my bedside, I come to the conclusion that for two to three months of seeing each other, you did not love him. You may now be tearing your hair and spitting violently at this newspaper. That’s probably because you are on the wrong page, but my thinking will bear fruit as I seamlessly tie up this point with my answer. You see, whatever the obstacles, the most important thing is do you ‘love him’? I mean do you really love him? If so, I say start working on your parents. It may seem impossible now, but look for small compromises slowly. Let them see the greatness and sincerity of your love. Give yourself time to get their blessings. As much as you can. Then let your ‘love’ if genuine, lead you. BDS, remember what Rudyard Kipling said ? “Now Chil the Kite brings home the night That Mang the Bat sets free”. This is a reference to that international nocturnal sport. Making babies’ In the animal kingdom when a female wants to mate she puts an ad in the local newspaper and all the males who are interested then apply by standing in line puffing out their chests and screaming loudly. You may like this girl but that doesn’t magically mean she likes you or even knows you like her in the first place. So its open season and she is free to flirt (as long as she puts an ad in the papers) and they are free to flirt with her. Stand in line, puff and scream, let her know, make your play man, or this girl will be gone faster than Zayn Malik from One Direction! P.G, My good friend your ex boyfriend is in a very common state. Its the same state as a 40 year old man is in when he wakes up one morning and finds his hair has left him. It’s the state of ‘confusion’. Must I spell it out for you? C-O-N-FU=S-I-O-N... Funny thing about humans is we are one of the few animals and probably the only planet to push this overrated idea of ‘fidelity’. So even if he’s in a relationship the eye can still wander which is fine till things below the eye join in. Look like he got tempted and now regrets it. If he’s running away please save your self respect and put it down to a wasted evening. But obviously all is not well with his new relationship. You could try chatting once may be but other wise let him sort out his own affairs and get back to you. I get this question once in four years just like the Commonwealth Games. And just like the Commonwealth Games no one seems to remember anything. Let me put on my scientist hat first. Oooops! Also some clothes before I start! First cousins means some shared DNA which means possible health risks for Hindi films that can be made from your story. The tabloids may exploit your situation. Twitter and Facebook will be filled with disdain and laughter. Public buildings may tell your story on their toilet walls, so please be aware of all this. Whether she loves you or not is something only you will know. How about trying for your second cousin? Or better still, my second cousin? Or even better his 8th cousin?