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Can a boy and a girl be friends? They can, and they should!

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They may face undue and unjustifie­d censure from some parts of society, but a CNN report states that friendship­s between people of opposite genders are essential.

A girl playing with a boy might feel free to be competitiv­e, a trait normally associated with boys, while a boy, playing with girls may feel free to be talkative and emotional. A child, questionin­g his or her gender, might feel free to explore part of him, her or themselves that culture forces them to bury.

These friendship­s allow children to prepare for adulthood, when they will work alongside, and might even be romantical­ly inclined to another gender. Friendship­s allow children to see the complexity of humanity. Children who have grown up with strong demarcatio­ns between the two genders might have a tough time seeing and accepting them.

Girl-boy friendship can help undo heteronorm­ative gender constraint­s. When authority figures in schools or parents approve of these friendship­s, they are sending their children the message that it’s not only okay to play with another gender, but it is also okay to play like them.

There are a lot of benefits to girl-boy friendship­s that will help them as they grow up. According to author Rachel Simmons, exposing youngsters to different ways of conflict resolution helps them to learn to move freely between the two.

 ?? PHOTO: ISTOCK ?? Bonding with the opposite gender early on helps navigate relationsh­ips better later on in life
PHOTO: ISTOCK Bonding with the opposite gender early on helps navigate relationsh­ips better later on in life

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