City residents are open to remarriage
Debate deliberates upon the impact of on children’s psyche
Springing a surprise on the panel of experts convening the deliberations on “Punarvivah or remarriage”, active audiences of more than 60 projected stark realities attached to the social issue.
The audiences were deliberating on the subject during a debate organised in Ludhiana under the aegis of Zee television.
The unambiguous approach of the audience, a majority of whom were between 45 and 65 years, prompted the debate towards the problem of increasing divorce rate in the country and the reasons for the same.
Moderator Kum Kum Chaddha, former national news editor of the Hindustan Times, while sharing her observations said, “It is rather surprising that Ludhiana residents are more open to remarriages as compared to Chandigarh, where even the
youth are opposed to the idea of remarriage.”
She also pointed towards the NRI marriages, which have become the leading cause of divorce in Punjab. “The cases are no more restricted to girls getting married to settle overseas as the boys are equally keen to go abroad and it is evident from the increasing divorce cases filed by the boys and their parents living in Punjab,” shared Kum Kum Chaddha.
Other panelists included sociologist Sunita Arora, Dr Harmeet, a consultant psychiatrist at the civil hospital, Mohali, Ashok Mittal, an eminent lawyer, Ravinandan Sharma, president of the Aadhar Foundation and Television, and film script writer and director ID Sandhu.
An audience, Sarwant Kaur, raised her voice in favour of remarriages as she emphasised upon the missing compatibility in some marriages, which according to her becomes an unbearable burden for the couples.
“A couple in our relations is living together for the past 20 years, but are unhappy and do not even want to see each other’s faces. Their children are the only reason that they are together, but I feel in such cases the children should take the initiative and allow them to separate and remarry a person of their choice,” debated Kaur.
However, another social activist pronounced remarriage in case of separated couples as nothing but an easy way out, which he said was a major cause behind the increasing divorce rate in the country.
Are divorcees or widows not entitled to start over afresh? The debate on “Punarvivaah” also questioned the double standards that Indians display towards the issue of remarriage: While men can easily remarry, the conservative sections of Indian society frown upon women who wish to remarry. Why the gender bias?
The discussion also considered cases of divorcees or widows who already had children from their first marriages.
The discussion deliberated on the impact of their marriage on the psyche of their children.
Are most children typically resistant towards their new stepparent? Can their negativity be won over through love and affection in the longer run? Does having a caring father/ mother figure (even if it is not their own biological parent) help their holistic growth and development?