Shivani Misri Sad­hoo on han­dling your tem­per in a meet­ing

Work­place is prob­a­bly one of the most com­plex places where pres­sures are high and tem­pers run hay­wire. But it is also the place where you need to walk the talk

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Most of us have gone through a sit­u­a­tion where our favourite project was can­celled af­ter all the hard work, when our boss as­signs more work when we were al­ready over­loaded, our leaves get can­celled or we do not get sat­is­fac­tory in­cre­ment. And the feel­ing that surges through at that mo­ment is anger! And it’s a huge strug­gle to con­trol this at that mo­ment. Some­times one does fail to con­trol the out­burst and protests. And then suf­fer the reper­cus­sions. WHAT CAUSES ANGER? Spir­i­tual texts de­fine anger as a de­mon in­side the per­son. Some ex­am­ples of when anger orig­i­nates: • You were over­bur­dened with work and missed to clearly com­mu­ni­cate the same to your boss or co-worker. • You were fo­cused on your thoughts and in­ter­preted your co-worker or your boss’ point. • You could have fallen in a con­tro­ver­sial trap by a se­nior. HOW TO OVER­COME ANGER • Treat ev­ery per­son with cour­tesy and re­spect, as you would treat any­one else. Just be­cause one per­son be­haves in an un­pro­fes­sional man­ner that doesn’t mean you should fol­low him/her as well. • If your co-worker or sub­or­di­nate takes you for granted even as you are po­lite, it’s time to reeval­u­ate your lead­er­ship qual­i­ties. • Try to be as­sertive. If the other per­son is rude and un­pro­fes­sional, then ex­plain that you refuse to be treated that way and calmly leave the sit­u­a­tion. Re­mem­ber to set the ex­am­ple. • If you dis­agree with your co-worker or with your boss’s point of view, then watch out for early signs of anger. Stop­ping your anger early is the key. Re­mem­ber, you can choose how you re­act in a sit­u­a­tion. • If you feel the anger ris­ing, stop what you are do­ing. Close your eyes and take some deep breaths. This will in­ter­rupt your an­gry thoughts and helps you re­align on a more pos­i­tive path. It will help you be­come more har­mo­nious also. • Pic­ture your­self when you’re an­gry. If you imag­ine how you look and be­have while you’re an­gry, it gives you some per­spec­tive on the sit­u­a­tion. Is your face red when you are shout­ing? Are you wav­ing your arms around? Would you want to work with some­one like that? Prob­a­bly not!

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