Shivani Misri Sad­hoo on ac­cept­ing your co- worker as your boss

To be able to ac­cept your co- worker as your boss has a last­ing ef­fect on one­self pro­fes­sion­ally and per­son­ally, and needs to be tack­led ma­turely

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Many amongst us have faced or wit­nessed a sit­u­a­tion where your of­fice col­league and friend, sud­denly was de­clared your new boss. Def­i­nitely, it’s an awk­ward sit­u­a­tion for most of us. Since you sud­denly need to be­have and com­mu­ni­cate for­mally with a per­son, whom you have con­sid­ered your friend and pos­si­bly shared your per­sonal and pro­fes­sional prob­lems or have di­rected and guided him or her as a big brother. So how can you tackle such sit­u­a­tion ef­fec­tively if it hap­pens in your life? Here are some tips:


No mat­ter how you feel about your col­league be­com­ing your new boss, you have to ac­cept that the re­la­tion­ship between the two of you can no longer be the same. As a boss your col­league is now an­swer­able to the top man­age­ment, who will judge his/ her abil­ity to main­tain a healthy of­fice en­vi­ron­ment - that in­cludes the boss is not taken for granted and he/ she should not be per­ceived to be too friendly to­wards one par­tic­u­lar sub­or­di­nate.


It’s very much pos­si­ble that your new boss may prob­a­bly ex­pect some jeal­ousy, re­sent­ment or maybe even fear a sub­tle sab­o­tage from his/ her for­mer col­leagues. Grace­fully con­grat­u­late your new boss and with com­plete hon­esty, tell that you will sup­port your boss's fu­ture plans and will be his back. This will have much bet­ter re­turns for you in the long run vis- à- vis you show your dis­like or ex­press your un­hap­pi­ness that you should have been given the pro­mo­tion. Keep in mind, since your new boss has been se­lected by top man­age­ment amongst you all, he/ she cer­tainly en­joys bet­ter val­ues, ex­pec­ta­tion and trust by the top man­age­ment than you.


One dilemma is de­cid­ing how to act – whether to be ca­sual or for­mal, whether to ig­nore or em­pha­sise the change in the sta­tus, among oth­ers. Fol­low­ing your boss’s lead is the best way to avoid in­ad­ver­tently cross­ing a line.

If you ex­press ag­i­ta­tion against your top man­age­ment’s de­ci­sion, you are prob­a­bly go­ing to face trou­ble in the com­ing times


Since you col­league has been se­lected as the new boss of the depart­ment, chances are high that rest of your col­leagues too are fac­ing the dis­likes, pain, and feel­ing that things have been un­fair for them. So there would def­i­nitely some ha­tred, of­fice gossips against your new boss. It’s ad­vis­able not to par­tic­i­pate in those con­ver­sa­tions. If you have to say some­thing about the new boss to your rest of your col­leagues and you can’t quite bring your­self to give some praises words then at least say some­thing like, “Why don’t we give him a chance be­fore we de­cide he’s go­ing to be ter­ri­ble?” When your col­league be­comes your boss, it would be awk­ward for you both. But if you try to ex­press ag­i­ta­tion against your top man­age­ment’s de­ci­sion, you are prob­a­bly go­ing to face trou­ble in the com­ing times. Rather act gra­ciously and pro­fes­sion­ally, and lay the ground­work for a suc­cess­ful work­ing re­la­tion­ship.

Shivani Misri Sad­hoo Founder Saarthi Coun­selling Ser­vices

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