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I am a woman of 30, in a re­la­tion­ship with my co­worker, who is five years younger than me. We gel re­ally well. How­ever, the prob­lem is my boyfriend seems to get an ex­tra thrill when there’s a chance of us get­ting caught while hav­ing sex. Now he is sug­gest­ing we try it at our of­fice after work­ing late at night. I’m scared! Su­raya Misra, Kan­pur

Some of us use the risky pos­si­bil­ity of get­ting caught out, to add ex­cite­ment to our sex life. Noth­ing wrong with that. How­ever, if you want to do it at work or in the car to ex­pe­ri­ence the thrill of pos­si­bly get­ting caught, re­al­ize it could have long-last­ing reper­cus­sions not only on your sex life, but also your life in gen­eral. Do­ing it in the

While go­ing the whole hog in pub­lic is risky, you can amp up the tem­per­a­ture by shar­ing a quick and lusty smooch in the el­e­va­tor, or a quick fon­dle in the trial room of a de­part­ment store.

of­fice even after all your other co-work­ers have left is not a good idea at all. For one, there will be se­cu­rity per­son­nel not­ing the time you left. Most of­fices also have CCTV cam­eras and this could put you both in a very em­bar­rass­ing sit­u­a­tion. You’ll could risk los­ing your jobs, leave alone the shame of be­ing cap­tured on cam­era. In­stead, look for ways to have fun sex while be­ing care­ful and smart at the same time. Don’t al­ways do it on the bed – some­times try a chair or even a ta­ble. Ex­plore the pos­si­bil­ity of a pic­nic to a re­mote des­ti­na­tion where there will be no one to dis­turb you. You could leave the cur­tains of your room open for an added thrill. While go­ing the whole hog in pub­lic is risky, you can amp up the tem­per­a­ture by shar­ing a quick and lusty smooch in the el­e­va­tor, or a quick fon­dle in the trial room of a de­part­ment store.

Please don’t give me a lec­ture here. I of­ten hook up with dif­fer­ent guys. I’m 20 and have no in­ter­est in any­thing but keep­ing it ca­sual. I do how­ever care for my health and sex­ual safety. Any tips I need to be aware of? Jeena Ka­pur, New Delhi

Hi Jeena, al­right, no lec­tures but I am glad to see you show­ing re­spon­si­bil­ity to­wards your own safety. You need to pro­tect your­self from un­wanted preg­nancy and sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted dis­eases. In­sist on bar­rier pro­tec­tion, which in­cludes con­doms and fe­male con­doms. These form a phys­i­cal bar­rier be­tween your pri­vates and your flu­ids, and those of your part­ner. Tests show that con­doms are 82% ef­fec­tive if used typ­i­cally and 98% ef­fec­tive if used per­fectly. There is al­ways the risk of the con­dom fall­ing off or break­ing, which is why sex is never risk-free. You should also get tested reg­u­larly for sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted in­fec­tions (STIs). Ev­ery three or six months is ideal. Al­ways keep sup­plies on hand such as birth con­trol pills and con­doms – yes, that means even in your hand­bag so you’re never un­pre­pared. Get over the stigma of STIs and be frank about dis­cussing them with your part­ner. When you open up about the last time you got tested and dis­close your sta­tus, it be­comes eas­ier to ask the guy you are with if he is clean. It’s im­por­tant to talk about STIs be­cause, other than her­pes sores or gen­i­tal warts, there are no vis­i­ble mark­ers of STIs. Stay safe, stay happy!

You should also get tested reg­u­larly for sex­u­ally trans­mit­ted in­fec­tions (STIs). Ev­ery three or six months is ideal. Al­ways keep sup­plies on hand such as birth con­trol pills and con­doms – yes, that means even in your hand­bag so you’re never un­pre­pared. Get over the stigma of STIs and be frank about dis­cussing them with your part­ner.

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