Confessions Of A Compulsive Flirt KIMI ON MEN, MEN AND MEN
When she turns on that special smile you bet there’s a man around, for Kimi Katkar wouldn’t waste her energies on a woman. She’s a man’s woman. Totally. Sexy, voluptuous, coquettish and a little wicked. “I can’t be bothered talking to girls,” she airs, “all they can do is bitch, bitch and bitch. Give me the guys any day.” And man does she go for them! She lays it all. All those womanly viles that God equipped the fairer sex with. Given a man she’s live wire. Suddenly vibrant and vivacious, flirting, pouting, darting those warm come-hither looks through her half open, half closed green eyes. “Look here yaar, life’s too short. Who wants to spend it sitting in a corner, waiting for something to happen? That’s not me,” she shrugs. “I cannot be a goody goody girl. I cannot behave this way or that way only because I am supposed to. I cannot pretend. I am what I am. I have always preferred male company. I think men are more interesting. They add that little excitement to your life.” She seeks men relentlessly and makes no excuses. “So I am a flirt,” she admits defiantly. “So what? Isn’t it only normal for a young single girl to take interest in the opposite sex? And come on it’s my special trait. I am a Sagittarian, a born flirt. In fact, in my case it’s the only thing that keeps me going.” With disdain she shrugs off the repercussions her special Sagittarian trait has had on her reputation. “It takes no time for people to brand a woman chaalu in this industry. It takes no excuse either,” she scorns. “I’ve seen industry wall as start sniggering at the most respectable of actresses as soon as she has turned her back. Who cares anyway? I cannot change myself for anybody or anything and I cannot be something and pose to be something else. I cannot be a hypocrite. If I feel in a certain way about somebody, I cannot hide it. I cannot do things behind closed doors. I am not made that way. “And come on, who cares what a few insignificant people think of me. So what if I am free with people? So what if I am uninhibited with men? What’s wrong with flirting when you know your limits? Look here, if there is talk about me, it’s all loose talk. People around here have double standards. They have one set of rules for themselves, one set of rules for their girlfriends. And anyway how does it matter? Am I getting any less number of films because of my reputation? It doesn’t really make a difference, does it?” It probably did. To her relationship with Sanjay Dutt and Danny Danzongpa. “They wanted sati savitris is it? They are great saints themselves isn’t it?” She says sarcastically. “Maybe Sunju did drop me because of the rumours that had begun to spread about me then. Maybe he couldn’t take me seriously because of my outgoing disposition. Too bad yaar. If my man cannot trust me, he’s not worth it. I will not change myself for anybody. I cannot hold myself and sit with a straight face on the sets. How can anyone work in such an atmosphere?” Meenakshi Seshadri does. “Well, I mean no offense to her but I could not be like her to save my life. I cannot be a hypocrite,” she shakes her head. “Come on
yaar, we as it is work under such heavy pressures. We are working from morning to night. On top of that the pressure of pretending, of acting out an image. God I would turn into a vegetable if I had to constantly behave myself. “Though in between I did try to change myself,” she smiles sheepishly. “My friends would tell me that I am too open and free with my male co-stars. It pays to keep aloof, they would advise me. So I tried to withdraw myself. Not that I succeeded. In a week’s time I was feeling utterly miserable. So were my co-stars. Specially Govinda with whom I share a damn good rapport. He couldn’t believe the change in me. In fact he told me later how upset he was when I did not speak to him for a few days.” So Kimi Katkar came back to being herself. Joking, flirting and fooling around with her heroes like before. “Most of my work is with the guys. And when you are thrown together so often you are bound to get closer to a few. And if I take a liking for someone it shows on my face. I cannot hide my feelings,” she grins. “And I have to let the person I like know that I like him.” Not every time though. For our self-confessed flirt dreads the thought of Mithun Chakraborty coming to know about the secret crush she has on him for the past so many years. Not only that, she’s so much in awe of him that she loses her tongue in his presence. “I go weak in the knees every time I see him,” she shudders, “he’s too sexy yaar. If only he was not married. I’ve had this crush on him ever since I saw him in Suraksha and I don’t think I even exist for him.” Well, he certainly cannot ignore her after such a loud proclamation, certainly not an obliging gentleman like Mithun.
But I wonder how Binju (Kimi’s present boyfriend) will react to his girlfriend’s passionate outburst about another man’s sex appeal. “Look here yaar I am only dating Binju,” explains Kimi. “I mean I did go to Goa to see him and all that and I do see him whenever I get the time but I am only getting to know him better. It’s not one of those intense relationships. I don’t want to get into anything serious at the moment. I’ve had three major relationships (Mohnish, Sunju, Danny) all of which failed. I left Mohnish. The other two left me. And somewhere along the way it has left a very bitter taste in my mouth. I’ve been very disillusioned. I don’t want to get into any serious stuff now. And where do I have the time to conduct a full-fledged relationship?” A lot can be done while on work too. Only a few days ago I had seen a letter being passed from Kimi’s make-up room to Raj Babbar’s make-up room (they were shooting together at Filmistan) – a letter wrapped around a red rose. “Oh that,” smiles Kimi selfconsciously “that was not a letter, just a small note. Actually, I have been wanting to do an Art film for a very long time and since my secretary Bali is friendly with Raj, he happened to mention it to him. And as chance would have it Raj ji was planning to make a film (an Art film) himself. But before I signed his film Raj ji wanted me to see an earlier film directed by Dayal Nihalani (who is directing Raj’s KasamYodha.) He kept so many trials, but I could never make it for them. Finally I saw the film and liked it. So, in that chit I had just written how much I had enjoyed the film and how I had really liked Dayal Nihalani’s direction. That’s all. Come on yaar how can I have an affair with him! I had rather have one with Raaj Kumar instead.” Not that I am convinced but I let that pass. At the rate Kim jumps in and out of relationships it would not be surprising if Raj Babbar was history by the time this issue hits the stands. “What do you mean yaar?” Ms Katkar is offended. “You are talking as if I change boyfriends every week. First of all whether you are convinced or not, let me tell you I am not having an affair with Raj ji. I agree I like older men (the younger ones in this industry are all of their ego trips and I can’t pamper bloated egos) but Babbar is just not my cup of tea,” she asserts. “Even Anil Kapoor once accused me of having an affair with Raj Babbar.
I’ve had a crush on Mithun since years… if only he was not married.”
Only because some time ago when we were all shooting late night at Essel Studio he saw Raj ji having his dinner in my room. Raj ji was hungry and he hadn’t got food from his house. So Raj Kumar Kohli for whom I was shooting (Raj ji was with another unit) told Raj Babbar to have the biryani he had got for us. And since my share was just lying waste (because I was not hungry) Kohli ji asked Raj to go into my room and have the biryani kept for me. Bas, Anil just saw Raj and after that sulked with me for a week. And to add to it all, I, without knowing what rubbish is going on in his mind asked Anil Kapoor how he would react if I had an affair with a married man. Anil blew his top. “It is that man Raj Babbar you are talking about. It is he you want to have an affair with,” he started screaming. I told him I would have one with him if he left his wife but he was not amused. And after that I left for an outdoor. After I came back it was all over town that I’m having an affair with Raj Babbar. Come on yaar credit me with better taste.” Oh! So it must have been to manao her rootha hua Anil that Kimi had asked me to give the Kapoor. “A big hug and kiss on her behalf” the last time I had bumped into her on my way to Anil’s house. Is Anil Kapoor also in the list? I ask her and add jokingly how I marvelled at the ease with which she managed too many men at the same time. “Baliji is there na to manage my career,” she winks at me. “I can handle the men.” Then she gets serious suddenly “no yaar I’m just joking. I may be a flirt but I too draw a line somewhere. And it’s not as if I am on a man-hunting spree. I just flirt for the heck of it. For a lark. It’s just that after so many years of restriction I have suddenly got this freedom and I’m just letting my hair down.” I don’t quite understand what Kimi’s trying to say. Her next line confuses me even more. “There is a vast difference between the Kimi Katkar of today and the inhibited insecure girl of yesterday,” she continues. I look at her quizzically. “Till I joined films I had led a very restricted life,” she explains. “In my formative years I was at a boarding school in Panchgani. A Convent. And you know how strict they are. After that I came back and joined college, my mother used to accompany me to the college every day. That is she used to drop me and fetch me. And she was very strict. No late night parties (that she doesn’t like even now), nothing of that sort for me.
I’ve had three major relationships (Mohnish, Sunju, Danny) all of which failed.”
As a result I grew up to be an absolute introvert. “Can you believe it?” she smiles. “I couldn’t say hello to anyone without feeling self-conscious. My mother used to get mad at me, she was perpetually pinching and nudging me to go and say hello to people but I found it very difficult. It was only after I started modelling and met Mohnish that I started opening up a little. Though I really got confidence only after Tarzan became a hit and my career started looking up. It is my success in films that has given me the courage to come out of my shell. And I’m really living it up to make up for all those years. What is that they say about too much restriction, whatever psychological funda that is. I guess that’s what happened in my case. Maybe convents produce sex symbols. Zeenat Aman too has studied in the same boarding school as me,” she laughs. I notice the pride with which she calls herself a sex-symbol. “Maybe it is good to have a prim and proper image like Hema ji (Malini). Maybe it pays,” she says a little uncertainly. But only for a moment. Defiance takes over again. “What the hell yaar I think I’m damn good the way I am. At least I am myself.” She’s in her element once again. “The one guy I would love to know is Sunny Deol. I think he’s damn cute yaar,” she says with a twinkle in her eyes then bites her tongue. “God, Dimple Kapadia will claw my eyes out…”
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