ONE NIGHT, MANY RULES
ARE YOU READY?
A night of no- strings attached sex is only fun if that’s really all you’re looking for: baggage- free sex. If you hope that this one night will free you of your loneliness and mend your broken heart, then read no further. There are many dating websites that help you move on and that would be the more intelligent way of getting over somebody. Think about how you would feel if you woke up to find this one night charmer had left without a trace. Would it make you feel let down? Then you’re not ready for this.
EXIT STRATEGY
No matter how wonderful he appears now, the morning after is an awful time for a lot many reasons. You have no idea how you’ll feel and perhaps the last thing you want is to make small talk with this guy you otherwise wouldn’t entertain. Tell him before you get into the cab that you have to get up early to meet a friend. If you do want to hang out the next day, you can say she cancelled, and if you don’t you can bolt without hurting his feelings
CHECK FOR BELONGINGS
Before you exit the building be absolutely sure you’ve got all of your things. There is nothing more humiliating than having to go back later to pick something up. He just could think that you did it on purpose, which you shouldn’t do in the first place. If he’s staying over at yours, make sure he takes all his stuff.
DON’T LINGER
It’s the same thing as contemplating a third helping of that ice- cream. As much as you love it, it’s a good idea to stop and get back to eating it at a later date. Don’t expect to spend the day with him after a onenighter. He’ll like you even more when you leave him wanting more; if he doesn’t want to take things further, it will save you the humiliation of being chucked out.
Alcohol has this magical ability to transform absolute third rate men into suave eligible studs. If you feel the slightest sense of doubt, exchange contact numbers/ email ids and promise to set up a meeting at a more sober time. This will give you time to see if he really is someone you want to take to your bedroom. If nothing else, it’ll save you the trouble of rolling over and finding Shrek sleeping next to you. BOOZE, CONFUSE
LETTING HIM DOWN
So
the fun is over and now you can’t wait to get him out of the house. But he won’t budge. The best way is the most painful way: being honest. Make him a cup of tea, tell him you had a great time ( that bit it is okay to exaggerate; never ever say he was awful) but that you’re not in the market for a relationship.
SAFETY FIRST
It really can be a big bad world out there, so ensure you’ve got yourself covered at all times. If you’re going alone to a club, make sure either your parents ( yes, a bit farfetched, but most reliable option) or some close friends know where you will be. If you meet someone there who suggests you go pub- hopping, use one of those annoyingly invasive apps that make you check in to every site you go. Or keep texting a friend of your whereabouts but don’t run out your battery. Most importantly: carry a condom. As a woman you may not find the need to, but hey, you don’t want any risks, do you?
BE CLEAR
As shocking as it sounds, not all men are just looking for sex. Many of them would like sex and a relationship. Just because you met him at a club around 1 am, doesn’t mean he has only sex on his mind. If you know for sure that you do not want to be swapping numbers with this person after you wake up, let him know before and don’t lead him on. You don’t want to wake up the next morning and explain your stance to him… with a hangover. Recipe for disaster, this.