CONSIDER SETTING BOUNDARIES WITH YOUR FRIEND
QI’ve had this best friend for the last fifteen years. He recently got engaged to his girlfriend of five years. The thing is, I don’t think she likes me much and makes it rather obvious to me when we are hanging out. My friend too gets a little uncomfortable to hug me, which was very normal for us to do. I don't get good vibes from the girl, but I don’t think I should make it awkward by asking either of them what’s the matter. Please help.
It appears that your friend’s fiancée is insecure with the fact that her man is comfortable with a female friend. You seem to be getting the vibes that she doesn’t approve this relationship. What are your feelings? Are you happy for your friend that he is tying the knot with the girl he loves? How do you feel to be in her position? It is not unusual about feeling insecure regarding friends of the opposite sex, when one is in a committed relationship. While these can be great during singlehood, in marriage these friendships can prove to be problematic. Having low selfesteem or being plain jealous might be some of the reasons for her to not like you as much. It could also be the fear that she might be discussed with you. When you intend to clear the air and talk to either of them about the awkwardness be prepared that you might not come to a solution but they would make excuses for the other. Instead of making it embarrassing for all involved, you can give some space for the relationship that you friend has moved into. Consider setting boundaries with your friend with a sense of maturity that relationships change over a period of time and be happy for your friend.