DEBUNKING MYTHS

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I am 35 years old and my husband is 45. We got married just six months back. We haven’t been able to intercourse properly till now. My husband is facing a problem of premature ejaculation, post which, his penis has withdrawn from any action. We have consulted a gynecologist and he gave us these: Promaetil, Verilex, and Penegra Xpress. Even after taking these, we have not seen any positive results. Please suggest.

The ideal method of managing the situation is to first find out the cause(s) of the problem and then plan a treatment. Premature ejaculation can be caused by physical factors (diabetes, short frenulum, sensitivity reactions, certain neurological problems, etc.) or psychological factors (conditioned response, anticipatory anxiety, personality traits, etc.) or a combination of both. If it is due to a physical condition then pharmacotherapy (treatment with medicines) will be suitable. But if it is due to a psychological factor(s) then you should go for Sex Therapy. I suggest that you consult a specialist in sexual medicines.

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I am 26 years old and pregnant for over a month. My husband has been avoiding me since the time the pregnancy test had come positive. I really need him both mentally as well as physically. But his behaviour is totally frustrating me. Please guide.

I think, he is a little concerned about your health. In general, sexual intercourse can be had till the end of the ninth month provided there are no complications. Intercourse should be avoided by those women who have: previously had a premature baby, have a dilated or effaced cervix, previously dealt abortions and miscarriages, etc. Request your husband to clarify his doubts with your doctor. The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at

dr.narayana@deccanmail.com