Accept your sexual orientation
QDear doctor, I have a problem. It’s homosexuality. I am 27 years old and am getting married. I want to change to a heterosexual. Please give me a good suggestion, you can save my life. A: Why do you want to change? Is it because you are under parental pressure to get married or because you think society will look down upon you? Realize that you are as normal as any heterosexual. You don’t have to feel bad or guilty about your sexual orientation. The medical fraternity has stopped considering same sex orientation as abnormal since 1978. It is now considered an alternative sexual orientation and is akin to some people being left handed.
As of today medical science has no clue as to what factors make an individual homosexual or (for that matter) heterosexual. Since we do not know the causes the possibility of changing the sexual orientation does not exist. Many methods had been tried but given up due to their ineffectiveness. Some methods like electric shock therapy had been prohibited as they are potentially damaging. My suggestion is that you accept your sexual orientation and become comfortable with it. For this you can seek either professional help or reach out to support groups. Do not get married. Not only will you be buying trouble but also ruining an innocent girl’s life.
QI think I have erectile dysfunction. I am aroused but the moment I start to have sex, I ejaculate very soon. Even if I try again for an erection, its takes a long time and it’s the same experience. A: You seem to be having ‘Premature Ejaculation’ and not erectile dysfunction. Immediately after an ejaculation it is difficult to get an erection. Most men require a sexually resting period, known as ‘Refractory Period’, before they can get the next erection. Observe your refractory period and wait till that is over before attempting sex again in the same session. Your premature ejaculation can be managed either through sex therapy or through Pharmacotherapy (treatment with medicines). Consult, in person, a specialist in sexual medicine.