BREAK THE CYCLE OF ABUSE

Dr Vidhya Nair, holistic psychologist, shares tips on how one can break free from the mentally and emotionally draining cycle of perpetual psychological abuse. “If you feel like you’re being emotionally and mentally abused, trust your instincts and act upon them. Know that you don’t have to live that way. If you fear physical violence, inform the emergency services. Even in case of abuse that doesn’t involve physical abuse, one may call counselling services/helpline numbers nearby,” says Dr Nair.

Accept that the abuse isn’t your responsibility: Don’t try to reason with your abuser. You may want to help, but it’s unlikely that they’ll break this pattern of behavior without professional help. That’s their responsibility.

Disengage and set personal boundaries: Decide not to respond to abuse or get sucked into arguments and stick to it. Limit exposure to the abuser as much as you can.

Exit the relationship or circumstance: If possible, cut all ties. Make it clear that it’s over and don’t look back.

Seek help: Reach out to supportive friends and family members. Seek a therapist to help your recovery.

Give yourself time to heal: Make yourself a priority and be kind and compassionate with yourself. Start with small steps of self-care.