IN OUR INDUSTRY, IT ALL STARTS WITH A SENSE OF POWER AND A FOOLISH, YET DANGEROUS SENSE OF ENTITLEMENT. SO MUCH SO
that one fails to even realise that the action is neither charming nor commendable. It’s just plain disgusting and ironically, for the sense of power that they feel, quite desperate.
Things change when the norm is questioned and followed up with action. Both are happening. The lingo and body language that had become the norm for the industry is under heavy individual and collective scrutiny. Hereon, it is up to us women to not be ‘OK’ with men and their version of ‘OK’. We must speak up and hit back if needed when we feel a violation. And not let it go in good humour. A simple "Hey, this is NOT OK!" will be far more effective than an embarrassed silence.
Speaking of embarrassment, the narrative of who should feel what in situations like these also needs to change. Embarrassment needs to shift to the predator instead of being thrown at the woman. Let him feel like a desperate letch, rather than a cool cowboy. And let the woman feel like a warrior, cleansing dirt that comes her way, rather than a victim.