Signs you might be a codependent parent
Codependency is a faulty concept that suffocates the genuine core of a connection in which the parent-child boundaries cross in an unhealthy manner
Codependency is a tangled relationship that depicts a sense of stagnation between two generations, both parents and children, in which they are unable to achieve autonomy (the ability to perform independently).
Codependent parents exhibit pathological clinginess, are unable to teach good behaviour, and can be found in all stages of life. Are you a codependent parent or a parent who makes intentional choices? Here are some signs you might be a codependent parent:
Hesitation to see your child struggle: It is normal to safeguard your child from danger, but if you’re having a tendency to go to extremes to protect them emotionally, then that is alarming. In the long run, your persisting interference could prevent them from developing the life skills they require to succeed.
Controlling your child’s life:
Are you obsessively focused on your child? Do you intentionally volunteer yourself as the person in charge of choosing your child's career? If so, you might be a helicopter parent and you are making your child’s life regimented.
Yelling as control tactic:
When you focus too much on correcting and changing your child's behaviour, you're straight away making your child responsible for your emotions fundamentally, asking them to ameliorate your anger and anxiety.
You take ‘conservative approach’: In such a style of codependency, you tend to follow archaic protocols where you’re unwilling to accept changes and new ideas coming from your children.
You lean for ‘emotional support’: In codependency, it is an unhealthy dynamic that appears in parenting where the parent seeks for emotional support through their child who should attempt to fulfil the emotional needs. This type of unhealthy relationship blurs the boundaries between parent and child in a way that is psychologically inappropriate.
Involving kids in ‘grown-up conflicts’: Involving kids in grown-up conflicts they shouldn’t be a part of is a typical way of codependency. Conflicts are what help couples move forward and grow, but if you don’t keep your child out of an adult business, then you are putting your child’s mental health at risk.
You are a ‘brick-wall’: You are a parent who never listens. No matter how valid the point is, you are a stubborn parent who is not ready to re-evaluate the set of beliefs that you have in your mind. —IANS