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Today’s chess pros are as fit as top athletes
CAhess seems like a game for couch potatoes, but to play it at the pro-level you need to be seriously fit, says an article in ESPN. “A chess player can burn up to 6,000 calories a day while playing in a tournament, three times what an average person consumes in a day…”
In a tournament, the grandmasters can lose over 1kg a day because their breathing and blood pressure are elevated for hours due to stress. “The 1984 World Chess Championship was called off after five months and 48 games because defending champion Anatoly Karpov had lost 22 pounds...” The 2004 winner, Rustam Kasimdzhanov, lost about 8kg in his six games.
For today’s grandmasters training is not just about practising moves and mental toughness. They devote a lot of time to maintaining physical strength and endurance as well.
“Viswanathan Anand does two hours of cardio each night to tire himself out so he doesn’t dream about chess... (Romanian grandmaster Cristian) Chirila does at least an hour of cardio and an hour of weights to build muscle mass before tournaments.” And world champion Magnus Carlsen, “works out for hours—running on the treadmill, perfecting asanas on his yoga mat, playing soccer with his friends.”
How long should you wait after a breakup to start a new relationship? “On average, people think you should wait five months before entering a new relationship,” says a BBC article, adding that it isn’t the best advice.
The best course is to move on quickly, research shows. “People who start new relationships quickly have better romantic life f eelings,” the article quotes Claudia Brumbaugh, a psychologist at City University of New York. Benefits of a rebound relationship include feeling more confident, desirable and lovable. In B r u mbaugh’s studies, “There were no cases where people who were single were better off.”
In fact, people who nurse a breakup for months may be fooling themselves. Their self-esteem is shaken, and they try to use the gap to convince themselves the experience has left them better off. You might tell yourself you are more independent after the heartbreak, even though you are not, psychologist and author Ty Tashiro says in the article.
If personal growth is your mission, there is a better way to get there than shutting the door on love. The article says you are better off not blaming yourself. “People who blame an environmental reason, like work or how they get on with family members, also reported more personal growth afterwards. The people who saw the least growth blamed themselves for their breakup.”
While starting a new relationship soon after a breakup can help you get over the pain, studies show people who rebound faster are attracted to someone who resembles their ex, or imagine such similarities. Brumbaugh says this is possibly due to our need for consistency. “By finding a new partner who resembles a past partner you get consistency.”
Consistency is important in relationships because couples “see themselves as part of each other.” They are likely to have common friends and hobbies. “This intertwining of selves might leave them feeling vulnerable after a breakup. Suddenly, they have lost a part of their identity, or someone with whom they share an interest.” Hence, the preference for someone who fills the void.
So, yes, starting anew with someone who reminds you of your ex has advantages, but it can become a problem if your new partner does not actually possess the traits you see in them. For instance, if your ex was a good cook, you might believe that your new partner—who resembles your ex—is a good cook, too.
“It could create problems because of incorrect assumptions. I want him to be as romantic as Sam, and every time he is not it challenges my expectations, it might be disappointing, even though Bob might be quite romantic,” Brumbaugh says.
Nonetheless, it is better to not mull over a breakup and “let a little love back into your life” as soon as you can.
CHANGE THE SEASON: In the 2009 film ‘500 Days of Summer’, Tom loves his colleague Summer. He is devastated when she dumps him and wastes six months before getting a grip on himself. He eventually falls in love with a girl named Autumn
MARATHON MOVES: Top players like Magnus Carlsen can burn up to 6,000 calories and lose over 1kg in a day during tournaments