10 WAYS TO BE A GREAT DAD
Not just a father, become your childʼs best parent.
Afather is the male parent of the child; its progenitor, they share DNA with the child. It's easy to be a father but not easy to be a dad because a dad is someone who shares responsibility in the child's growth and development. Dad is a term of affection and familiarity. Dad is someone who actively participate in the child's growth and development. He can put a roof over his head, clothes on his back and food on his table. Every dad has fears that he won't be a great dad, that he'll be a failure. It comes with the job. Here is a list of tips...
1 Model good behaviour: It's one thing to tell you child what she should do, but to say one thing and do another just ruins the message. In fact, the real lesson your child will learn is appropriate behaviour. Excessive drinking or smoking or drug use by parents, for example, will become ingrained in the child's head. Bad manners, inconsiderate behaviour, sloppy habits, anger and a negative attitude, laziness and greed..all these behaviours will rub off on your child. Instead, model the behaviour you'd like your child to learn. 2 Spend your spare time with them: When you get home from work,often you're tired and want to relax. But this is the only time you have with them during the week days, often, and you shouldn't waste it. Take this time to find out
PLAY WITH YOUR KIDS, CREATING FORTS, DRESSING UP AS NINJAS, ROLE PLAYING, IMAGINING YOU'RE EXPLORERS OR CHARACTERS IN A MOVIE OR BOOK...THE POSSIBILITIES ARE ENDLESS, AND YOU'LL HAVE AS MUCH FUN AS THEY WILL.
about their day, lie on the couch with them. On weekends, devote as much time as possible to them. The thing kids want most from their dads is their time. Dads shouldn't be afraid to show affection. Kids need physical contact not just from their moms. Snuggle with them, love them.
Don't just watch TV shows, go outside and play sports, do a treasure hunt, have a pillow fight, Play Carom or tennice with them. 3 A little patience goes a long way: However, allowing yourself to react in anger or frustration is not the best thing for your child, and you must remember that. That means you need to take a deep breath, or a walk, when you start to lose your relationship, and your child, will benefit over the long run. 4 Treat their mother with respect, always: Some dads can be abusive towards their spouse, and that will lead to a cycle of abuse when the child grows up. But beyond physical or verbal abuse, there's the milder sin against the child's mother with disrespect, your child will not only learn that behaviour, but grow up with insecurities and other emotional problems. Treat your child's mother with respect at all times. 5
Do the "mom" stuff: Things that are traditionally considered "mom" duties are not just for moms anymore – changing diapers, feeding, bathing, rocking them to sleep in the middle of the night. Dads should help out as much as they can, sharing these types of duties equally if possible. And in fact, if you're a dad of a baby, this is the perfect time to bond with your child you should leap at the chance to do these things, because that's how you start a life-long relationship with your child.
Remember the first couple of years are also a lot more demanding than later years, and as they hit middle school they become almost functioning, independent adults. 6 Sense of humour required: Allow them to make mistakes, a good dad realises that his children are human, and that making mistakes is part of growing up. There will be times when your child does something that might make you blow your lid – writing in crayon all over the walls is a good one, as is dumping some kind of liquid on your couch, or sneaking out and taking your car to meet up with friends. While you need to teach your child not to do these things, it's better to just laugh at the humour in the situation. 7
Read to them, often: Whether you're a reader or not, reading to your children (from the time they're babies onward) is crucial. It gets them in the habit of reading, and prepares them for a lifetime of learning. It gives you some special time together, and become a tradition your child will cherish. 8 Spark their imagination: Free play, mentioned above, is the best way to develop the imagination, but sometimes you can provide a little spark. Play with your kids, creating forts, dressing up as ninjas, role playing, imagining you're explorers or characters in a movie or book... the possibilities are endless, and you'll have as much fun as they will. Limit TV and video games. Experts recommend an hour a day of "media time", but you can find the amount that works for you and your family. 9
Kids like making decisions: While it is easier to be an authoritarian parent, what you're teaching your child is to submit to orders no matter what. Instead, teach your child to make decisions, and he'll grow up much more capable-and happier. Kids like freedom and decisions, just like any other human beings your job is to allow them to make decisions, but within the parameters that you set. Give them a choice between two healthy breakfasts, for example, rather than allowing them to eat a bowl of sugar if they choose to. 10
Learn the "firm no": Parents who don't set boundaries are going to have children with behaviour problems, who have problems when they grow up. And if it's not good for the child to say "no" at first ...and then cave in when they throw a temper tantrum or beg and plead. Teach them that your "no" is firm, but only say "no" when you really feel that, it's a boundary you need to set.