My Family, My Friends and Me...
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I and my future husband met when we were both 13 and soon became inseparable. During our teenage years we gave our parents a very tough time, but soon after that, by some twist of fate, we met a sanyasi who caught our imagination and from the advice that he gave us we realised that if we wanted to have a good life we needed to study so that we earned the kind of money needed for an affluent life.
This realisation brought about a change in us. We still partied and smoked pot, but we also studied – and we discovered that we were smart and quick to learn and that exams were a joke! And when we were just a few years older than our siblings, we had passed a number of exams and were earning much more than they were!
We began to feel that we were leading a wonderful life. We were earning fat salaries that made it possible for us to buy practically anything we needed or wanted and to have wild dope-filled fun during weekends and off days.
But something has happened that has totally changed this scenario and this is that we have found out that I am pregnant.
Our first reaction was that my pregnancy was a joke and that I should have an abortion the very next day – no big deal because I had already had two. But when the next day dawned – we were both unable to get up and go to the person we knew who performed abortions. Now two weeks have passed and we are still unable to!
What does this mean? We think we know – but we are frightened!
Yes, this is not a difficult riddle and both of you are sure to understand why you cannot face going and having an abortion. Some instinct in you is telling you to protect the embryo growing in you – to protect your little one growing in your womb!
You are scared because it is natural to feel scared when something life- changing is going to happen. A baby changes every couple’s life and in your case a baby will change your lives beyond recognition!
The inability both of you are feeling to abort the baby is proof that both of you want it. But before you decide to become parents, you should see a doctor, tell him or her A about complete the done will drugs not you your affect any medical you permanent past the have check-up unborn escapades both damage consumed baby to ensure in and and any have that have that way. they not all If a the should doctor abort says the that child. the child The is doctor in danger, too you will advise this. In fact, as I am sure you can understand, you should give up drugs at once and for all. You could also take this as a chance to change your lives and get in touch with both your parents and your siblings, If you have a child, he or she will definitely need grandparents and uncles and aunts!
MY HUSBAND AND I HAVE JUST ONE DAUGHTER WHO IS NOW twenty years old. She is in the second year of college. She has fallen head-over-heels in love with one of the most popular, handsome, brilliant and charismatic young men in the college. That young man is a year senior to her and she met him when she signed up for various co- curricular activities. Now she is obsessed with this man and is following him around like a little puppy.
We came to know all this from a nephew of my husband who studies in the same college and became worried about my daughter. He warned her that her obsession with that student would get her nowhere, but when she refused to pay any attention to his warnings, he came to us.
When we talked to our daughter about what her cousin had told us, she was open about her feelings for this young man. She told us that she could not live without him and that she knew that he would never love her. “But I’ll always love him and serve him like a slave!” she told us.
That was three months ago and our daughter is doing as she said she would. She barely attends classes and that boy is taking advantage of her in every possible way. He treats her without any respect and I will not be surprised if he is making her his sex slave too.
My husband and I are worried out of our minds. What can we do?
Your daughter needs psychological help because her behaviour is certainly not normal. She needs to see a psychiatrist or counsellor but she’ll probably not agree to go and consult one because she will not agree that there is anything wrong with her. But you must convince her in some way or the other.
She also needs to change her college. You could also speak to the young man concerned (or you could ask your nephew to speak to him) and explain to him that your daughter’s behaviour is not normal and that she needs help that only he can give her.
You could then explain to him that he needs to talk to your daughter and tell her that she needs to forget him and get on with her life.
It may take time but with help, your daughter will get over her obsession with this rcman and get on with her life.