Selfishness to ones self can be easeful.
Life is busy around here, with kids and household chores and career. Me-time is more important now, more than ever. There’s nothing wrong with taking a little “Me-time” – a time which you devote totally to yourself, and no one else. The only person whose opinion you need to worry about is your own! Do not think what others think of you – it should be none of their concern.
Greet all the misty mornings with gratitude. There is always something to be thankful for! There are so many wonderful things around us. There’s a magical place inside you to venture – so nothing is impossible. It is possible that one feels a tinge of guilt about it. But do not feel guilty about it because with lots of routine work which you have carved out through the years, there is a small little space within you that creates wonder – and it needs to be nurtured by this “Me-time”.
Sometimes we give so much that we end up losing ourselves. Alone time is when we can distance ourselves from the voices of the world – so we can hear our own voice. In effect – ‘Soul search’. It heals the depths of our souls and identifies our true needs and desires. It’s not always easy to do so, but taking the journey alone is often needed to rejuvenate our own sense, body and soul.
No wonder that working moms feel the need to compensate for their lack of “mom’s performance”, rushing to get to their families as soon as possible after working hours to ease the tinge of guilt of being gone for so long. There is the pressure of the kid’s extracurricular activities, homework, dinner and the work on E-mails that one cannot ignore.
For many, self care may not even feel like an option. But it is your only option if you want to take care of your family and work for as long as possible. It is like you all have heard in aircraft, flight attendants tell us to “secure our oxygen mask before assisting others.” Therefore, we have to make time for ourselves to be energetic. Perhaps, one day we would tell our daughters to do the same thing, so that they enjoy life and handle it perfectly.
We all need exercise, good nutrition, and positive ways of managing daily stress. It’s true there are only so many hours in the day, so we have to carefully schedule “Me-time”. If you need help, ask for it. Ask your spouse, family, neighbour, friend or anyone who cares for you. There will be so many times you have failed but in the eyes of your child you are a “super mom” – even if you have an assistant hero for help.
Here are some easy ways to squeeze more “Me-time” into our day, no matter how busy a bee you are:
Take a breathe: This sounds easy, doesn’t it? But it’s crazy that the number of times we don’t even get time to catch our breath – literally! Whether work has got you crazy or things are not working out as they should, just stop…close your eyes (of course when it’s safe to do so – not while you are driving!) and try to clear your mind. Then, focus on taking 10 deep breaths. Make sure the breath fills your belly as you inhale. Many of us don’t take a full breath, but rather breathe upwards. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth. Try to make your out breath twice as long as you inhale. Do this 10 times with your closed eyes. You will be able to feel your nervous system calming and the panic going away. Call a family member or friend: Never lose a true friend. Often, try to call a relative whom you can share your troubles with or someone who lets you have true freedom to be yourself. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine! So be trustworthy to get trust from others. It doesn’t have to be long but 10-15 minutes of conversation with someone we love can help us to relax and feel more fulfilled with our day.
Go outside: Going outside for a walk in nature allows our bodies to get vitamin D and to eliminate toxins from our bodies. The greenery and the fresh air refresh our moods and clear negative thoughts from our minds. If you work in an office and really need to get outside, simply walk around the building or the block again for 10-15 minutes.
Inspire your inner chef: ‘Chef’ doesn’t mean that you are the best cook, it simply means ‘boss’. I have been a cook all my life, but I am still learning by experimenting with new techniques and improving beyond my own knowledge because there is always something new to learn and new horizons to discover. A homemade meal is very satisfactory – and for kids as well as for your spouse a
THERE’S NOTHING WRONG WITH TAKING A LITTLE “ME-TIME” – A TIME WHICH YOU DEVOTE TOTALLY TO YOURSELF, AND NO ONE ELSE. THE ONLY PERSON WHOSE OPINION YOU NEED TO WORRY ABOUT IS YOUR OWN! DO NOT THINK WHAT OTHERS THINK OF YOU – IT SHOULD BE NONE OF YOUR CONCERN.
simple dish made with your hands would bring happiness. Choose one nice recipe and try it out. Cooking is creativity and with time it improves.
So, why not create the same feelings for our kids? There’s nothing that beats maa ke haath ka
khanna (food cooked by mom), food to cheer them up. Enjoy cooking so that you will start to look forward to it as “Me-time”.
Write: Not everyone is a writer. But the act of writing and expressing our emotions and thoughts actually helps to calm us down. You can write about anything or any paragraph to start with. One can write on the smartphones! If you have nothing to write then start up a daily diary of your routine work, things that worry you, why you are stressed or why the day was wonderful. You will be amazed how light you feel after having written the words down on paper.
Treat yourself: As the old saying goes – If you don’t love yourself who else will? Remind yourself that you deserve a happy life and enjoy yourself on a regular basis. Treat yourself to a spa or a nice massage, a relaxing pedicure eye-catching nail paint or manicure to pamper your arms and feet. A trendy hair colour or a haircut can boost your personality and sometimes a change works wonder. Take a relaxing shower gel bath: There’s probably nothing more relaxing than getting home after a long day of work and pampering your body with a long warm bath. Relax by taking a shower gel bath with some stress-relieving oils that keep you fresh and clean.
Gift yourself: Give yourself the gift of five minutes of doing nothing. Sometimes this is enough to get a bit of breathing room and planning your next move. Stimulate yourself to learn or hear something about a new topic.
Do a good work everyday: Try to do something nice for someone who is needy or poor. How does this works? When we carry out random acts of kindness, we feel a warm glow inside.
Cultivate hobbies: Make yourself an uplifting playlist containing your favourite songs and listen to them while doing your work. You can opt for gardening which gives delight and helps in passing the leisure time. We can do painting, sketching and mandala art which is an art therapy and healing that can be a great source of reflection on one’s soul. Get and go out for shopping: Get rid of your old clothes or apparels and go for shopping, replace clothes that don’t fit or flatter you. Be trendy and a trend setter.
Read: Try out reading new books, flip over magazines and blogs for free inspiration within minutes. This is truly inspiring, isn’t it?
Love animals and birds: Go out to an animal shelter or a pet store or do bird watching, or photography. There’s something relaxing about watching them playing and sleeping together in a happy snugly heap.
Electronic detox: This means switching off all the electronic items. Treat yourself to an electronic detox. Getting our eyes and mind away from these gadgets which keep on bombarding one with so many negative energies. If you are doing one of the other tips on the list, you are already away from your electronics – but if you need a detox in the middle of the day, just put off everything and enjoy the silence for a while.
Workout or yoga: At least workout for half an hour a day. It keeps you fit and it’s necessary for our body fitness and good health. Exercise adds spice to our routine life.
These are a few tips I have shared so that you can squeeze out “Me-time” even if you are busy. Sometimes it’s all about our perspective. You might already do a lot of these things but not think of them as “Me-time” whatever you do just enjoy and squeeze that “MeTime” in for a world of benefits!
A life without laughter, is like a sunrise without the sun!