FAITHFUL OF FRIENDS AND FULFILLING FRIENDSHIPS
Some of my post-graduate students posted a meme about college life on social media. “We fretted the first day here and are equally upset on the last day. Though we always wanted a life after college yet we are now sad that it is ending and we friends are taking different roads.” It reflects many of our feelings. This blissful bond of togetherness plunged me into a pool of thought. I asked myself, ‘What is my friendship worth?’ Suddenly, I had a glimpse of three of us – me, Sunita and Sumita – sitting in the college staff-room, a giggle here, a guffaw there in hypnotic rhythm, and almost a tumble later. Three of us ‘awestruck’ written on our faces, mouths hanging open to eyes bugged out to ‘oh’!
Life with friends is never for a dull moment. They find innovative ways to draw out of the mundane spells of utter madness – be it laughing at over-dressed kitty party ladies or dreadfully done cake faces. With each passing day, we cross new thresholds to dive headlong into new spheres hit her to unexplored nudging one another to fall prey to crazy stomach hurting laughters. The best part is friends know how to handle you suitably without pushing wrong buttons. However grim the situation, they are like Snoopy’s comfort blanket, giving you instant comfort.
With my flamboyant friends I have indulged in plenty of fun. American toasts at the cafe, rides to excursions, movies followed by dinner, window shopping, the sartorial elegance, quiet companionship, truly partaking a lesson for life singing gleefully with Shakespeare, “Words are easy, like the wind; faithful friends hard to find”. With friends ordinary becomes extraordinary as we discover deep within ourselves, soul qualities of peace, piety, poise and propitiousness, an underlying love that does not change under any circumstances. No longer required to play societal roles, you are at ease.
Never ask, “Who is my real friend?” Ask, “Am I a real friend to somebody?” When friendship is nurtured with the nectar of loyalty, laughter and liveliness, one flies on wings of birdie bonds and fervent feathers. Jane Auston’s words echo in my mind, “There is nothing I wouldn’t do for those who are really my friends. I have no notion of loving people by halves; it is not my nature.” This kind of friendship holds promises of deep fulfilment.
Older communities had interesting variations of the word “friend”. Old English had “feonsped” (an abundance of friends), “freondleast” (want of friends) and “freonspedig” (rich in friends). There is no inbuilt mechanism for it in biology. It is non-biological. Hence one rises in friendship, It has spiritual dimensions. However, today the concept of ‘Friend’ and ‘Unfriend’ is in vogue. But I do feel that I am lucky to have a group of friends whose positive vibes and passionate vision make me revel in a sea of joy with waves of love overlapping in tides and ebbs of my life. I believe the grin on my face comes from the lighthouse of friendship which is an irreplaceable component of a happy, healthy and harmonious life. Having good friends, is wonderful bliss, and no other feeling can be more wonderful than this. Are you with your friends today? Or are you missing someone...?
LIFE WITH FRIENDS IS NEVER FOR A DULL MOMENT. THEY FIND INNOVATIVE WAYS TO DRAW OUT OF THE MUNDANE SPELLS OF UTTER MADNESS – BE IT LAUGHING AT OVERDRESSED KITTY PARTY LADIES OR DREADFULLY DONE CAKE FACES.