Make happiness your way of life.
If you really want to be happy, nobody and nothing can stop you from being happy. It’s that simple! The truth about happiness is that it’s under your control. The Dalai Lama and Desmond Tutu in the book titled The Book of Joy which they co-authored, write that joy depends on our attitudes, how we perceive situations and our reactions that follow. Also to an extent the relationship we share with others.
This is something Rick Foster and Greg Hicks, authors of How We Choose to be Happy: The 9 Choices of Extremely Happy People - Their Secrets, Their Stories, reiterate when they say intention is the driving force behind being happy. Since intention is under an individual’s control, all one must do is make a conscious decision that results in happiness over unhappiness. Here are some simple ways to choose happiness.
Value happiness: In his book titled, You Can Choose To Be Happy, “Rise Above” Anxiety, Anger, and
Depression, author Tom G. Stevens, PHD, stresses on the importance to make happiness your number-one goal in life. In order to do that, Stevens suggests that one must be committed to this goal by taking primary responsibilities for their own happiness and not wait for others, fate, money or a spouse to make their life happy.
Happiness first: We all expect success to result in happiness. And for a moment it surely does. But according to author Shawn Achor, of the book titled, The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology That Fuel Success and Performance at Work, it’s the other way around.
He gives instances where people pin their happiness on the next promotion, better marks or fulfilling a target. Herein lies the danger and the wait which sometimes can be endless.
Instead, find happiness in the process and when you achieve your promotion or target, celebrate.
Feeling of well-being: To feel happy you just have to make those happy moments, even if they are small and fleeting, linger longer. Sometimes it’s just about reliving those past happy memories or creating new ones.
I have a small corner near my work table, I choose to call my ‘happiness center’. Here I keep things that have made me happy in the past. Samples of my achievements, positive and motivating quotes, photographs that make me smile, and my camera which reminds me of my new and fulfilling hobby, photography. Just looking at these objects makes me realise that even if every moment of my life isn’t pulsating with joy, there have been past events that have been amazing and there will also be future events that will be pleasurable.
BARING YOUR HEART MIGHT SEEM A GOOD WAY TO RELIEVING YOUR PAIN, BUT WHEN YOU SHARE YOUR TROUBLES WITH PEOPLE WHO CANNOT OFFER A SOLUTION, IT DOES NO POSITIVE GOOD FOR EITHER.
Take credit: Taking credit for your own achievement is also as important as counting your blessings. We are all quick to credit others for their support and unwavering belief in us, but how many of us pat our own backs for the hard work we put in and our determination to push on in adversity that result in our ultimate achievements. By crediting yourself doesn’t necessarily make you selfcentered. It’s a way to value yourself.
Kick stressful habits: Some habits result in stress which ultimately ends in unhappiness. In an article published on the www.time.com website, the relationship between social networking more than two hours in a day and young people feeling psychological distress is evident. Instagram users feel constantly under social scrutiny and
Spread happiness: We all have problems that tend to wear our heart down. But when you meet people, try not to burden them with your troubles. Baring your heart might seem a good way to relieving your pain, but when you share your troubles with people who cannot offer a solution, it does no positive good for either. So when someone asks you how are you, make it a point to speak about the positives that are happening in your life. It helps to dwell on the good times, even if they are few and far apart. This makes you feel happy since talking about the positive moments in your life itself makes it a happy interaction that adds to your happiness trove. this leads to mental health issues, anxiety and depression. Procrastinating can make you feel guilty. Being unorganised can sap your energy without a positive outcome. Over-scheduling can lead to you feeling inadequate when you fail to accomplish what’s on your list.
Complaining is another bad habit that only reminds you of the bad things going on in your life. Perfectionism is also a bane. People who seek perfection, obsess about details and want everything to be perfect are seldom satisfied with their own achievements and for them success rarely translates into happiness. Set yourself free from these unhappy habits.
Health is happiness: Research has proved that walking, exercising and mediation promotes good health which in turn results in happiness. On the contrary, it’s also a proven fact that anxiety, depression and stress lead to mental fatigue which depletes your health and chronically corrode your happiness. In order to be happy, follow a healthy regime coupled with exercise and seek medical help when necessary to overcome your mental blockage.