How to Choose a Wedding Celebrant
Let’s be honest: a celebrant can make or break your wedding ceremony. If he or she is far too serious, what should be the happiest day of your life could become the most boring.
On the other hand, a celebrant who is too inexperienced or doesn’t take the ceremony with enough gravity could result in many eyerolling, embarrassing moments. When choosing a wedding celebrant, the key question to ask yourself is, “Who is my guest?” this is a once in a life time event, you want your guests - your ‘target’ - to have a great time at your wedding ceremony. For instance, If the primary demographic of your wedding guests consists of young, lively friends (say, in a destination wedding on an island), you’ll want to choose a contemporary celebrant that has a personality that is light-hearted, keeps the ceremony short, and is a peopleperson. In this situation, being joyful and upbeat is key, so your guests are smiling and cheering with you as you share the best moment of your life with them. However, you may be inviting wedding guests that are largely from a background that expects a wedding ceremony to be liturgical and dignified. Perhaps your uncles and aunts that come from a more traditional culture are your guests of honour, and you want a ceremony that respects their style and their seniority. Then it’s likely you’ll want to choose a traditional celebrant that is more somber and calculated. In this case, look for a celebrant that has wisdom and experience, and can do the blessing in a serious tone that is fitting for the most sacred day of your life. Most likely, though, you’ll be dealing with a blended audience, that is made up of friends and family that come from both traditional and contemporary cultures. Since you are seeking to please both ends of this spectrum, here is a simple ‘celebrant hack’: their clothing. It is true that a person’s attire speaks on their behalf. Therefore, if your contemporary celebrant is young, lively, and energetic, have him dress in a very formal tuxedo, or religious robes, to include your traditional guests. Or, if your traditional celebrant is older, wise, and serious, ask him to ‘dress down’ with an open collar, to include your contemporary guests. Remember: It’s your wedding day, and you want to savour every moment of it. So, do the prep work beforehand, and find the right celebrant that gives you confidence.