ADJIE SANTOSOPUTRO
“No one would ever be ready to be in a relationship," Adjie Santosoputro said. “Many people hastily seek a relationship, or even a marriage, because they want to be happy, which I think is quite an incorrect plan.” According to this mindfulness practitioner, one must achieve a certain level of fulfilment before getting into a relationship with someone. “The idea is to share what you have attained, and not to expect your partner to be fully responsible for your happiness.”
Moreover, setting aside any egoism is necessary to have a healthy and mindful relationship with another. “To love someone, you need to shed your selfishness; and, not everyone is ready for that,” he said. “Your happiness is not the only important thing because your partner’s wellbeing is equally important. The key is to practice active listening and respect your partner.”
Another aspect that is key in maintaining a mindful relationship is to have a healthy level of intimacy. “Spend some quality time together with your partner to create a strong bond between the two of you. However, forget not to balance it with some private time.” Equally important is to master the art of quarrelling, according to Santosoputro. “Conflicts are an unavoidable part of arelationship. The more you try to avoid them, the more it will become a ticking time bomb that could go off anytime.”
1. The Setyohadi and Priyautama families smile happily around Claudia and Yoga after they pledge love forever to one another
Mrs Sisca Andria
Mrs Meytha Anton
Mrs Eni Joesoef and
Mrs Nunun Daradjatun
5. Mrs Hilda Ruscono
Priyautama kneels to put the ring on Setyohadi
7. Ms Dara Setyohadi
8. Mrs Anita Rusdi
9. Mrs Cindy Salim
10. Mrs Mrs Yulie Nasution receives one set from Mrs Zuzy Anna
11. Mr Indra Priawan Djokosoetono and Mrs Nikita Willy Ms Claudia Setyohadi and Mr Yoga Priyautama 13. Mrs Tuti Roosdiono