THIS ISSUE’S SEX TIP
Have you ever used a “whip” for sexual enjoyment and pleasure? It is one of the most widely fetishised forms of BDSM.
Those interested, but uninitiated, in the realm of BDSM should seek out the Beginner’s Guide To Spanking (Uberkinky), which has general information on safety, warm-up techniques, positions, and aftercare. The general practice is to start spanking lightly and then to increase the intensity gradually, listening carefully always to the responses of your BDSM partner. The same principle applies to the use of a whip.
There is a strong yin and yang element BDSM activities. There are also facets of psychodrama and role-playing, with many submissives taking pleasure in the very act of abandoning themselves to the whims of their mistresses or masters. It is important, however, that ‘safe words’ or signals are worked out in advance as to how far the spanking, or the use of the whip, should go, or how hard it should be. That comes down essentially to the pain threshold, or the kinky taste, of the submissive partner. The element of trust is hugely important here, and should never be abused.
Spanking can be a highly sexy, erotic warmup for sex play. And indeed, it can induce orgasms. It builds trust, adds that element of surrender and brings a naughty feeling of transgressive excitement into your sex routines.