WHAT WOMEN WANT

For many women, low libido is rooted in our understanding of how desire works. Culturally, there is still a lot of misinformation around how we have sex and what is pleasurable. Thanks to popular culture, the penis has been put on a pedestal for far too long: It is not the be all and end all of pleasure, and, if you don’t orgasm from penetrative sex, you’re actually in the majority. One study showed that only eight per cent of women reliably orgasm this way. But if you were to watch any movie with a sex scene, you’d be forgiven for thinking that number was closer 100 per cent. “Hollywood has a lot to answer for when it comes to how people view what is normal in romantic relationships and sex,” notes Shawna. These misconceptions can have very real consequences: If you’re not finding something fun or pleasurable, it makes sense that you’re not exactly going to be racing to do it again.