After nine years, he dumped me by email

After nine years together my partner called off our relationship via email while I was working on the night shift. He owns the house but has agreed to move out while I find somewhere to live. He said our relationship had broken down and promised there was no one else. A week later I discovered he was seeing a woman 25 years younger than him who has two small children. They appear to be having an amazing time. He has just received a large amount of money from a pension. I am reliably informed that he is spending a great deal on her – on holidays, jewellery and meals out. I accept that we have split up and I have a fantastic family and friends who are supporting me. The problem is I have allowed my ex to make me feel worthless. For him to end it by email makes me feel that I didn’t mean anything to him and that he has thrown me out with the garbage. Will I ever get closure? To end a nine-year relationship by email is absolutely appalling. Try to understand that you are not worthless and that your expartner has been very cruel. To end your relationship in this way was the coward’s way out. He did not have the courage to talk to you to see if the relationship could survive or, if not, agree to separate amicably. And, of course, in your ex’s case, because he has met someone else and is keeping it a secret, he doesn’t want to be questioned. It is because you are a lovely person that you have fantastic support from family and friends – they love and value you. Try to recognise this and value yourself. As your ex’s new girlfriend is 25 years younger, I wonder if her interest is in his money rather than a long-term relationship. See a lawyer to make sure you get a good financial settlement.