Say yes to PLEASURE

Iwas about nine when, sitting at the dinner table, I asked, ‘What’s oral sex?’ My parents exchanged uncomfortable looks. ‘Er… it’s when you talk about it.’

‘Oh,’ I replied, once more illuminated by the wrong information. Years later I would reflect on how lucky it was that I hadn’t gone to school and answered any questions about what we’d done the night before with an enthusiastic, ‘We had spaghetti and then oral sex around the table!’

I also knew that women weren’t supposed to touch themselves. I had taken to acting out girl-on-top in the bathtub, leaning forward to kiss the wall in front of me. I assumed this was what sex was like. This time a hot feeling began to spread through me, my heart was racing. Suddenly an explosion! My enjoyment of my first orgasm was hampered by the fact that I thought I was having a stroke. This was what happened to ‘dirty’ girls. If I survived, I promised myself that I would never touch myself again. But trust me, this is definitely the proper way to exercise.

Accurate information is as important for girls as it is for boys. And masturbation is awesome. I truly believe that discovering the abilities of my body at a young age has led to an easier experience with sex generally. Pleasure has always been within easy reach and I’ve been able to convey to partners exactly what floats my boat. I’ve always been bothered by the idea that it’s someone else’s responsibility to ‘give’ a woman an orgasm. How can you expect someone to invest that kind of time in you when you don’t even want to do it yourself?