My husband cheated on me with prostitutes

I am 56 and my life is in tatters. My second husband and I were living a dream life in France, where I also worked. After 22 years of marriage, I discovered that my husband had been using pornography and prostitutes, and had girls whom he returned to regularly. He had also been visiting massage parlours. This had all been going on for years. He never gave me birthday or Christmas presents and I now realise he was spending all his money on these women, even buying them sexy underwear. He has always had a problem maintaining an erection. When I confronted him he admitted to having had an erotic massage, but nothing more. I haven’t slept or eaten properly since my discovery in January and have lost four stone. We sold our house in France and I returned to this country to live near my son and daughter. If it wasn’t for my children and grandchild I would have considered taking my own life. His ex-wife, to whom he was also unfaithful, and his adult children have had no contact with him for 23 years. He insists on calling or texting me daily. I am reluctant to refuse to speak to him as he is giving me €1,000 a month to live on because my ability to work is now compromised due to my childcare commitments. I hate having to be supported by him. How can I get past this and ensure that I receive a settlement that allows me to survive financially yet get him out of my life. I am trying to be positive. No wonder you are devastated. You must be reeling in shock at the discovery that the man you loved and were married to for so long has betrayed you so utterly. I think this probably explains why his first wife and adult children don’t speak to him. He may have wrecked your past, but tell yourself you will not let him ruin your future. First, get legal advice as you must be entitled to half of your joint assets. Once you have secured a settlement, you can stop taking his calls. If you can, I think it would help you to return to work part-time or do voluntary work and join local societies so that you meet new people and build up a social life. Please have counselling to help you deal with the tumult of emotions you must be feeling.