He has stopped me seeing my grandson
My son and his wife of two years won’t speak to me or invite me to their new home – which I helped them to buy. His wife wants nothing to do with me, despite the fact that, for two years, I travelled 30 miles a day to look after my grandson so that she could go to the gym to get her figure back. My son has no empathy towards me and even taught my grandson to say ‘Go home Nana’ and ‘B ***** off Granddad’. My ex-husband and I are in bits. I have tried speaking to my son in many different ways – a gentle approach does not work as he seems to see it as weakness. When I threatened him, a show of power and steel did seem to get his respect and I am now able to see my grandson for two hours a week. However, this is such a little amount of time and I am heartbroken that I can never share in his school activities or take him out to do fun things. I feel I have lost a son and found a monster. I am so sorry about how you are being treated. You have done so much for them. It seems as though your son has been influenced by his wife and that she is excluding you because she wants him to herself and is extremely spoilt and controlling. However, it also sounds from what you say in your longer letter as though your son has been very difficult over the years and I am concerned about the way he talks to your grandson. Please contact Treoir (treoir.ie , 01 670 0120) as they can give you more advice and support.