I need help to get my libido back
I have a problem with my sex drive. In the past I have been prescribed treatment for depression and anxiety, although I am not taking those medications now. I have tried Viagra and my doctor has suggested psychosexual counselling as she feels it is a psychological problem rather than a physical one. I have made a female friend online who supports me. We have a good friendship and I have told her about my reduced sex drive. She lives in another country and is looking for a relationship. She says I am handsome and gorgeous and that she also enjoys my company. I am not sure if I am physically attracted to her – I think it is more an emotional attachment because she is so warm and friendly. Can you suggest somewhere that I can find some psychosexual counselling? I have researched help with Relate but can’t afford the fees. There can be many reasons for losing your libido, including depression, anxiety and some of the treatments for these, as well as having low testosterone levels, so please talk to your GP again and ask for further help. The woman in your letter sounds kind and very understanding. I really hope she is genuine, but you need to make sure that she really wants a relationship with you and is not just trying to use you as a passport to this country. However, as you say you have little or no sexual attraction to her, it is not the right relationship for you anyway. Some counselling services offer reduced fees for people on low incomes so search locally.